(Closed) Am I allowed to be offended?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you be offended?



  • Post # 31
    33 posts
    • Wedding: Gallaher Mansion, CT

    ahhhh, the downfalls of social media. since she was selected to be the Maid/Matron of Honor, she probably was more excited over that then being a bridesmaid (i know I would be). And you did say she was closer to the other girl. I would be annoyed, but not let if affect anything nor show the annoyance I feel…. considering this is all over a fb post 

    Post # 32
    1603 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014


    Candice1990:  I was in a similar situation, so I completely understand how you feel. I asked my best friend to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding (no MOH), and she acted like it was expected and didn’t really care one way or the other. Later, she was asked by her cousin to be in her wedding, and was OVER THE TOP excited. Part of it was that it was a destination wedding, but she was just in general more excited for her cousin’s wedding than mine.

    I was definitely upset by it, but there’s nothing much I could do about it–it’s not like I can get on her case for being too excited for one wedding and not excited enough for another!–so I just got over it. 🙂

    Post # 33
    611 posts
    Busy bee

    I would have been offended but I tend to take things really personal. I dont think she did it on purpose, though, so just take it with a grain of salt. 

    One of my BMs is getting married 2 months after me and didnt ask me to be in hers, but she asked my Maid/Matron of Honor. I was soooo hurt! But somehow I got over it because I had to. I think you will forget about it in a few weeks.

    Just be happy she said yes and be excited to start planning the fun stuff with all of your maids!

    Post # 34
    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

    Maybe I’d be a little ticked. But I wouldn’t say anything. She’s being over the top and a little attention seeking putting a crying picture on facebook. What the hey?

    Post # 35
    887 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

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    Candice1990:  i think you have every right to feel however you feel; that’s fine. you can certainly be upset. however, to rationalize this situation: she’s closer with the other girl (you said it yourself) and the other girl–i assume from your post–asked her in a propose-y way with the sash etc., and asked her to be Maid/Matron of Honor. so…she probably was really excited! 

    i would drop it. she’s in two weddings at once now, and she’s closer to the other bride. if things like this are going to bother you, you’re in for a long road. just try to have fun with your friend who is happily in YOUR wedding as well! 🙂

    Post # 37
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I think it’s hilarious that 1) the other bride gave her a “Maid of Honor” sash, 2) she cried like a pageant winner and 3) posted that to facebook. It’s even more hilarious if she made the sash herself. I gotta tell my sister (for whom I was MOH) this story.

    I wouldn’t be offended, but I would laugh if any of my friends did something so over the top. 

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