Post # 1
Am I allowed to not invite my cousins cheating girlfriend/fiancé to my wedding?
My cousin has a on-again off-again girlfriend/fiancé that he proposed to because she said “If I don’t get a ring I am leaving you,” after the first time she cheated. She has now cheated on him a second time, only this time it was with multiple guys, two of which were his friends. He has for some strange reason forgiven her and are back together. She is very controlling, and he is no longer allowed to speak to me. She has never treated me with respect. Our entire family (which is quite large) is against this marriage.
When they were off. My fiancé and I got engaged. We planned our wedding for October of this year (2011). My cousin and his girlfriend got back together and she is saying they are planning a wedding for the weekend before ours. My cousin has told family that the wedding is not on. To make things worse, I found out we had the same wedding dress. She of course has two dresses (one for the ceremony and one for the dance). Her down-played dress for the dance was the same as mine. Because she treats my cousin with such disrespect, I bought a different dress. Every time I saw the old dress I wanted to punch a wall because I was so mad at how she treats our family. She now says that they are going to have a baby right away, and when (not if) they split, it will be a big custody battle.
Am I allowed to send him an invite and not include a +1?
Post # 3
No; you need to give your cousin a plus one and let him decide if he wants to bring her or not.
Post # 6
Your FH and you need to talk about this. It is your wedding and comes down to your decision of who you invite and dont invite. You have to think about a few things: is it going to cause a war within the family if she comes? is it going to cause a war with your cousin if you dont allow him to bring her? Do you want to keep the peace and have drama there by inviting her or keep the peace and drama free by not having her there!
I would also try and talk to your cousin and express your feeling and see what he thinks. Maybe he wants to keep the peace and maybe respect you (even if she doesnt) and tell you “you know what dont worry about inviting her if you dont want her there! Its your day!”
Communication is the key! Just do a little talking and it will all work out!
Keep us posted!
Post # 7
It’s your wedding, and if you feel disrespected by this person i would say do not invite her. I think it is important to surround yourself with people you are close with and who are an important part of your life. If it is not someone you care to have in your life on a regular basis, then i would say especially on your wedding day you don’t need them there. We have had this issue with someone and have decided not to invite them.
Post # 9
No – it’s not your place to decide who he dates and brings to your wedding… only he decides that.
Post # 10
No I think you have to invite her, or at least give him a guest as someone else suggested. Especially if they’re engaged, which is a bit unclear from the gf/fiance title 🙂
Post # 11
I would invite her … it sounds like they may/may not be broken up by the time your wedding gets here anyway.
Post # 14
I;m afraid you will have to give your cousin a +1 what he does with it is anyone’s guess.
Post # 15
I know etiquette says you have to give a +1 but I think that its your day and you can choose to invite who you want, including cheating girlfriend. I don’t agree that you have to blantantly give people a guest of their choosing, I think its up to you if you want to invite her to join him. It appears that there would be more drama with her attendance than if you included her.
Post # 16
I think you should talk to your cousin first. Ask him how he feels about going to your wedding, whether it’s really important to him to have her there. If he says he absolutely would not want to come without her, than you should either invite both of them or neither of them, but he might not really want her around any more than you do.
If he’s seriously letting her tell him that he’s not allowed to talk to you, that’s BS. Don’t invite either of them.