(Closed) Am I Alone: Happy for Bachelor Party?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
4675 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t mind.  I know he isn’t going to do anything crazy like that.  But i did tell him and his best man that they had to do something that they wouldn’t normally do.  It didn’t have to last all night, it could be a very quick thing.  I  just didn’t want him to remember his bachelor party as another night playing video games with the boys.  

For new years my good freind who is a bridesmaid along with her husband decided to take us to a strip club as sort of a pre-bachelorette party (my Fiance was along).  I normally wouldn’ have done this.  But it was an epic night, and my Fiance bought me a lap dance 😮 ! So if his bachelor party was to be something like the crazy stripper I wouldn’t mind and I would totally trust him.  

Post # 4
4366 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I did tell him and his best man that they had to do something that they wouldn’t normally do

I like this 🙂

I’m not bothered but only because I know SO was to shoot a stag for his “stag” party.  He think’s that would be pretty cool.  

Post # 5
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was really happy for him to go out and have a great time with his guy friends. They spend the whole weekend away and he had a blast. He’d actually never been to a strip club prior to his bachelor party, so I told him he *should* go!

I didn’t ask a ton of questions about it, but I know he would never do anything to hurt our relationship. I totally trust him and he totally trusts me. My only stipulation was asking him to text once a day (didn’t matter when) so I knew he was alive and wasn’t passed out drunk on the streets somewhere!

It was especailly good for him to have a longer bachelor party because he’d already moved to the UK before our wedding so he hadn’t even seen his best friends in months.

Post # 6
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I told my Fiance he can do whatver he wants as long as he doesn’t blow our savings in vegas, does drugs or cheats. Personally, I don’t care about strippers, drinking, etc. My Fiance is a pretty reserved guy and at this point he thinks he might go to a football game just cause he can.


Post # 7
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014


Ummm…. So you don’t mind him making out with random strippers or getting a handjob? That is absolutely cheating in my books. 

Post # 8
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I totally wanted my Darling Husband to have an amazing time. In fact, I offered to purchase his stripper. I wanted him to have the kind of night you remember, just like mine was.

But I’ve never, ever been worried about him cheating on me or doing things he shouldn’t (like BJs, Handjobs, etc). If he was that kind of guy I would have reined in the festivities a bit.

I say you’re supposed to trust the guy you’re marrying!

Post # 9
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I want my FH to have fun with his guys at his bachelor party. Whatever he decides to do is completely fine by me. I know who I’m marrying, and I don’t need to be his mother and tell him what he can and cannot do. He already knows and so do his buddies. 

Post # 10
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wanted Darling Husband to have a great time and I knew there were strippers involved. But I would never go as far as telling him to do anything as long as he didn’t get an STD. To me even kissing in cheating, but a lap dance and getting drunk with his friends is pretty harmless in my books, not for an everyday thing but for a bachelor party definetly.

Post # 11
29 posts

@OP – so you’d be ok with him digitally penetrating her or her giving him a h/j? I don’t think so.

Post # 12
4109 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MyAlterEgo: That’s what I was thinking…


Darling Husband was free to do as he pleased for his. He didn’t have strippers, but he’s not much into them anyway.

Post # 13
3942 posts
Honey bee

I’m happy that he gets to spend time with his guy friends. they all live in different states, so it’s very rare that they get to spend time together. I think they’ll probably go to dinner, get drunk, and go to the casino. I trust him 100% and I know he would never do anything stupid to hurt the relationship.

Post # 14
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I couldn’t wait for him to go out! In fact, I gave his brother a $20 to make sure he got a really good lap dance! The next day I was anxious to hear everything that went on..not because I was suspicious..but because I wanted him to have fun!

Post # 15
29 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MyAlterEgo: I think she was saying she trusts him and isn’t worried about that. I trust my man to and do not care about strippers.

Post # 16
29 posts

Well of course – there’s a difference between a naked woman grinding on your Fiance and any sort of physical sexual interaction between them. Its not rocket science. E.g,: NOT OK:

– Kissing (At all)

– Fiance intentionally touching boob

– Any internal penetration

– Any genital touching

(If I need to go higher than this, then you have bigger problems…)

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