(Closed) Am I alone in thinking this is bad shower etiquette?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 122
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Legallyblondiebride:  having people address the cards themselves I’ve seen, and didn’t think twice abotu it it’s alot of addresses to write. not a big deal to me.

 

the FB post was tacky if it was bride, but if it was the Maid/Matron of Honor – still tacky but i wouldn’t think much of it.

Post # 123
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I feel the envelope thing is somewhat rude but I’d get over it..but the FB thing?!?!?! Listen, I love my registry, I’m obsessed I can’t stop looking but I would NEVER pimp it out on FB. EVER.

Post # 124
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Both are tacky to me. 

Post # 125
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

See I think the envelope thing is worse than the FB thing lol

Post # 126
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

eurgh both are incredibly tacky :-/

Post # 127
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think we spend a lot of time worrying about what’s rude.

I’m taking careful time and energy to write out meaninful thank you letters to put inside the envelopes and it ensures that I have all the info right.  It’s also something thats sometimes out of your hands when a Maid/Matron of Honor or someone else asks such a thing at a shower.  I’m busy enough planning a wedding I cant be policing everything someone else might do in my honour.  

Post # 128
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@antalyn:  I agree!  

 

My Maid/Matron of Honor had everyone fill out envelopes, and no one seemed to mind.  I actually have never been to a shower where we didn’t do that, so I didn’t think twice about it.  I took lots of time to write heartfelt and personalized thank-you notes to all my guests, a few people even remarked they were (pleasantly) surprised by all that I wrote.  Maybe it’s a regional thing or something?  No one at my shower was offended, so yay! 🙂 

Post # 129
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’ve seen the envelope thing before and at the time it didn’t strike me as rude… but I was much younger. When I threw a shower for my cousin last year I liked the idea of prepping thank you cards so much that I addressed them for the bride, I didn’t ask the guests too. 

The facebook comment though, that’s definitely rude.

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