(Closed) Am I Alone?

posted 8 years ago in Money
  • poll: Would you lie to your vendors (or lie by omission) to save money?
    No, it makes me feel uncomfortable : (50 votes)
    71 %
    Yes, it's my money, I worked hard for it : (16 votes)
    23 %
    Yes/No (explanation below) : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    5148 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Is a wedding not a “party” and “family reunion”? I consider a wedding to be both of those things.

    Post # 4
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    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I couldn’t lie either. I was straight with each of our vendors.

    Post # 5
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    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I’ve read that too and I couldn’t lie.  I also feel like when they found out closer to the wedding that it was actually a wedding that they wouldn’t make any extra effort beyond what they’re required to do to make things go smoothly.

    Post # 6
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldn’t lie about it. It seems morally wrong to me. 

    Post # 7
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am sad to know venders actually give seperate prices for seperate events! None of the venders I have talked to said anything like that. Then again, I guess the first thing I said was I need this and this for my wedding! If I was you I wouldn’t lie. It would be very akward for them to find out what is really going on.

    Post # 8
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    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    I never considered lying to my vendors – they’re all going to be there on the wedding day, so morality or not, I really don’t see how it’s even an option.

    Post # 9
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’ve just never seen how that actually works. But, with the exception of the salon I picked for hair and make-up, none of the vendors we needed to book had different rates. The salon did, but they also have extra services for weddings, such as getting to book the whole place and serving us champagne. I still wouldn’t feel comfortable lying about that sort of thing though.

    Post # 10
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    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Yeah I wouldn’t lie about it. I would be so embarrassed. It’s better to be honest with them anyway, that way you get what you really want.

    Post # 13
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think if you want to get ballpark figures it’s a good idea. For example just getting rental fees and minimums and what’s included – you can do anonymously to see which places will work for you – without having to deal with a lot of the upselling and misc stuff that comes with a wedding.

    But if you decided to actually set up an appointment and visit the place then just call back at a later time and tell them it’s for a wedding.

    Post # 14
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    1390 posts
    Bumble bee

    But it’s not morally wrong to charge twice as much for the same service just because it’s a wedding?? Boohocky.

    For lots of things you would be fine not divulging that it’s a wedding. How about a cake that you don’t necessarily want to look like a traditional wedding cake? My BFF just had a wedding and had 10 round layer cakes that were not ‘weddingy.’ Much cheaper. Rental places have different prices too and you might be automatically charged more for ‘wedding’ chair when ‘regular’ chairs would suffice.

    Post # 15
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I would tell the venue, the DJ and the caterers that is a wedding, but I’d probably leave that out if it was something else that will not actually be there on my wedding day. I think it’s unfair that people charge more for the same service or product just because it’s a wedding, so I don’t feel bad about just leaving that information out.

    Post # 16
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    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I think the only way you can really get away with this is if you are having a small, low key reception in a restaurant following a ceremony at city hall or in a park.  If you aren’t having any dancing, or a band, and are just eating at the reception you might be able to get away with lying about a wedding. 

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