- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
As a way of background, my sister (let’s call her R) and I are very close in age. So naturally, when something happens to one, the other one isn’t far behind.
I was Maid/Matron of Honor for R’s wedding and she is Maid/Matron of Honor for mine. R was dating someone for umpteen years before getting engaged, and my Fiance and I were dating for only a year. To each her own.
So when my Fiance asked my parents for permission to marry, my mother’s immediate reaction was “yeah but….you are getting married after R, right???” Not even a “yaayyy I’m so happy for you!” Nothing. Let’s make sure that R’s parade isn’t rainy. Thats all that matters.
Then, my family told me that they couldn’t plan for my wedding until R’s wedding was over – it was too much for them. Which basically meant that I had to do the planning on my own, but I couldn’t get a dress, etc with family until after her wedding was over.
My wedding was a non-discussion during R’s time. Plus, as per my previous posts, even though I wanted to get married sooner, my family couldn’t handle that and felt that I shouldn’t get married the same year as R (I shouldn’t rain on her parade), so I had to delay my wedding by 7-8 months to make everyone else happy. So I did and kept all wedding updates to myself.
I had to get my dress within the 2 weeks after R’s wedding because they didn’t want to do it sooner and we were pressed for time. Bridesmaid dress shopping was urgent and late because no one was interested until after R’s wedding. Now i’m rushing things.
To add to this mix, just this week, R ANNOUNCES that she is TTC. If she gets prego before my wedding, she can’t be my Maid/Matron of Honor (my wedding is destination) and ALL of the attention will YET AGAIN be surrounding R! Where is my f’ing time! Seriously, I delayed my damn wedding to make everyone happy and now its baby-making time for R! As it is, as soon as my family was notified of R TTC, my wedding is now old news.
Am i an attention hog?? Why can’t I have 4 months of it being about me for once? I must be in the wrong here…Maybe I’m asking for too much now. I should’ve just eloped and told everyone to forget it.