(Closed) Am I an inconsiderate bridezilla?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1844 posts
Buzzing bee

It is your wedding and it is your chose who stands next to you. It is understandable that they would be upset about not being included. Do you think they are upset for not being a bridesmaid or becuase you didn’t talk to them about it sooner?

It seems to me (and this is only my personal opinion) that if I were your good friend I would want to celebrate with you bridesmaid or not.

The friend that is living 8 hours away. Is it possible that you are reading too far in to why she isn’t comming? 8 hours is a long distance for many people. The gas money it self to drive 8 hours might be difficult to pull together depending on her situation. I always like to give people the benifit of the doubt if I can.

Post # 4
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2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your friends are really overreacting and definitely being immature.

The only thing I would have done differently would have been to sit down with each one of the girls you weren’t going to ask and explain the situation and ask to include them in another way, like performing a reading, before you asked the mutual friend.

That said, they need to chill. Ending a friendship over that is crazy drastic.

Post # 5
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1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t understand why your friends think it’s ok to tell you who you should’ve chosen.  No, I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla at all.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Not a bridezilla at all! These friends aren’t worth holding injudo if yet are willing to lose yorbrebship over this. They aren’t entitle to a role and this is purelyhip to you. I have Agee close friends I don’t ask to be in my party and some I did and while I know it might have hurt some feelings a true adult understands that choices new to be made.

Maybe you should have talked to them first? Sure, but you aren’t incotrol of what others do. It was done for them to feel hurt Thornton to let this color their opinion on you. Thier reactions were self centered. Be glad you spared yourself some bridesmaidzillas. 

Try to apologize again and if they can’t accept, let it go. There are much moreou portably things in life than this

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yup, I agree with PPs. You’re not being a bridezilla at all. Your friends need to relax and move on. Maybe you should have talked to them first and explained the situation but I don’t think it’s totally necessary, nor would it have guaranteed that they would be ok with your decision. 

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

You have unreasonable friends. Send link immediately to this thread. (J/k about that part)

Post # 9
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

first of all, nothing you have described would classify you as a bridezilla. 

secondy, it is your bridal party, you get to choose who you would like to stand with you! I wouldn’t feel bad about not telling them in person, you do not have to justify your decisions to these two girls. They obviously don’t know what friendship means, as they are being rude, disrespectful, and downright mean.  Yes they might have been hurt, but they are adults, and should be able to discuss openly, how they felt. friends are meant to be supportive, and happy during this time in your life, not pushy and condescending. Can u imagine how stressful the rest of the wedding planning would go, if these two so called friends, would fight you about every decision you will make.  It sounds like you made a great decision by not including them. 

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