(Closed) Am I asking for too much if…

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think that’s asking too much at all. I kinda assumed that being a bridesmaid means paying for whichever dress the bride chose – like it or not. Giving them a choice is very kind of you, I think.

Post # 18
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You’re being very considerate and thoughtful, I think. It seems like you just can’t win no matter what … I told my girls to pick their own black cocktail dresses — knee length, sleeveless (or strapless), and made from a “dressy” fabric, plus silver shoes and accessories. I left the rest up to them. Then I started getting complaints that it was “hard to pick” because there was so much to choose from. Harrumph!

Post # 19
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194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I come from the UK where if the bride wants you to wear something specific she pays for the dress. All the BMs dresses I have ever had (total 3) have been paid for by the bride.

I also think you need to bare peoples shapes in mind and accept that things won’t suit everybody.

Post # 20
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think you are asking too much at all. I was going to do something similar, but I fell in love with a dress from White House Black Market and I told the girls that I wanted them to wear that dress. None of them had a problem buying the dress on their own (I did offer to help them a bit with the cost if they wanted me to but none of them did). One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man has is a WHBM member so she was able to apply discounts to all of the dresses so they weren’t as much as we thought they were going to be. They were happy with what I picked out because they really are dresses they could wear again.

Post # 21
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357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t think that you’re asking too much at all!

Post # 22
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1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

That’s what I did and it worked out fine – I just made sure there were dresses at different price points for them to pick from.

Post # 23
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No you are not asking for too much.

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