- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
(Sorry this is kinda long. I’m so frustrated!!)
I am getting married on April 16th… NEXT MONTH! This whole wedding process has been pretty horrible with a pending lawsuit on a previous venue to get our deposit back because they suck; my Maid/Matron of Honor telling me she is pregnant and getting hitched at the courthouse and being *completely* unavailable through the majority of the process; one bridesmaid living in a different state and never responding to emails or phone calls; and now my little sister who is also a Bridesmaid or Best Man moving to Florida (who was my only source of help thus far).
I knew everyone didn’t want to spend a lot of money on being in our wedding so I made sure to make good choices that would keep the costs low. We got their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and shoes at an outlet mall: $40 each for the dresses and $30 for the shoes. The dress I chose wasn’t my original choice however. My original choice, which everyone agreed to pay for cost $200… but in the end, I decided to go with something else that we saw in a different store that fit my theme better and it just happened to cost $40.
My sister threw me a bridal shower at my parent’s house, which my Maid/Matron of Honor took credit for because she planned all the games and her mom brought some food.. I ended up cooking the majority of the other food for my own shower because they all wanted to use recipes that I had made, and couldn’t figure things out. (It was a VERY stressful morning) My sister was still in town then, so she did not have to travel. My Out of Town Bridesmaid or Best Man flew in for the weekend to attend, but her ticket was UBER cheap (Less than $100) because we used FF miles to get the cost down.
I had mentioned to them all before when looking for hair/make up people that I wanted them to get their hair and make up done the day of the wedding and I made sure to pick a company that did a great job and kept the cost low. They all agreed to pay for their hair and make up at that time, and I gave them the costs.
Well just this weekend I got an email from the stylists asking for a final head count so they could make a schedule for our wedding day. I called my Out of Town Bridesmaid or Best Man and my Maid/Matron of Honor to make sure they were ok with me putting their names down, and still paying for it. My Maid/Matron of Honor said “Well my hair is really short so I don’t want to pay. I don’t even know what they would do! It’s a waste of money.” She then told me that if everyone else was doing it, she guessed that she would do it too but she still protested.
The cost of hair and make up is: $80-$100 for hair depending on style, and $45 for makeup. I told all of them that I would pay for their makeup as a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift so none of them could say no to getting their hair done. I want everyone to look nice on our wedding day (My Maid/Matron of Honor is the type of person who NEVER styles her hair or wears makeup)! I am planning on paying for my sisters hair as a secret gift since she has been such a big help and my only support through the whole process. My Out of Town Bridesmaid or Best Man said she could do her own hair, but if I really wanted her to get it done, she would. I can tell neither of them want to do it at all.. and I know they are going to make rude commetns to the stylists about the costs the day of the wedding.
I would do all of this on my own dime for them for their wedding if they asked… and I just feel like no one cares!
Am I asking them to pay too much?? I think I have been VERY fair with the costs, and since no one is throwing me a Bachelorette party because my preggo Maid/Matron of Honor is too tired to do anything and just doesn’t feel like it, I think that is a fair price to ask them to pay to look great and be pampered for one day! Especially since my Fiance and I are paying for half of our wedding, and I’m already covering the cost of a lot of stuff for them.