(Closed) Am I asking too much of guests?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Am I asking too much of guests?
    Yes- this is unreasonable : (20 votes)
    13 %
    No- this is very reasonable : (138 votes)
    87 %
  • Post # 3
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @AlwaysLoverly:  I dont think this is similar. In that other post the bride was charging MORE.

    Post # 4
    46680 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You are not asking too much at all. I couldn’t stay at home for 2 nights for $60.

    You are  not subsidizing the cost of the wedding by charging guests extra for their lodging.

    They also have the option to stay elsewhere with your blessing.

    Big difference between your situation and the other post.

    Post # 6
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @AlwaysLoverly:  The most bridezilla thing in your post is saying that you’ll refuse a gif that’s given.  It’s your wedding, some people will want to give you gifts!! Don’t refuse them!

    Post # 7
    4476 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It’s a lot cheaper than many hotels – you’re fine.

    Post # 8
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I agree, your situation is much more friendly to your guests. Plus you’re asking $60 for 2 nights at nice lodges, the other bride was $250 (for a night? or two nights?) at a campground that slept 8 to a cabin and had communal showers, and that is a huge difference.

    Post # 9
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think another major difference is that these are super nice cabins with all the amenities and the other ones the bride wanted were literally rustic log cabins that is a real kids’ camp. I would be willing to spring for accomodations like yours because at least there are multiple bedrooms with actual bathrooms (not a bathhouse). You’re also not going postal if people still want a hotel rather than the cabin.

    I think you’re okay and not asking too much. It’s really not much different than having a hotel block that people can take advantage of. This is something you arranged and are offering, but guests are welcomed to do something else if they prefer.

    Post # 10
    384 posts
    Helper bee

    I feel like u would spend more than this for a hotel room if u had to travel to go to a wedding anyway…

    Post # 11
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Do people have an option or way to stay one night instead of two? That might be a barrier for some people if they have to pay for pet care, etc.

    Post # 12
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I dont think this is too much at all.  Its less than a hotel would be for 2 days and way more cooler than a hotel at that.

    Post # 13
    9139 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @AlwaysLoverly:  The difference is that you inquired of your guests before committing them to paying for the cabins and you’re only asking them to pay for their lodging and BYOB/L is not unreasonable based on your venue.

    Post # 14
    2191 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    other poster…..sounds pretty reasonable in fact $60 for a nice, private room is perfect!

    Post # 15
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    The issue with the other post was that the bride was requesting people pay for their food and drinks for the reception.

    You have simply set up accomodations.  Asking people to pay for their rooms is one thing, asking for people to pay for the wedding is another.

    Plus that other bride was asking people to pay $270 per person.  You are asking $60 per person.  You are being absolutely reasonable!

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