(Closed) Am I asking too much?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I personally do not think you are wrong. If you know for a fact that they are into drugs then why would you want anything to do with them? What did your Fiance say about all of this and firing him as the groomens?

Post # 4
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What does your FH have to say about all this? Why did he choose him in the first place?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can understand your point of view. My sister struggled with addiction for a long time, and I was initially worried she would show up high as a kite at my wedding. It’s a bit different for me, becuase it was my sister, and of course I was inviting her (and it ended up being fine), but if this guy is someone your Fiance barely talks to anyway, it seems odd he would want him in the wedding, especially if they might be using at the wedding, and you are uncomfortable with it.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think you’re wrong to not want him to be a part of your bridal party.  I’m a little concerned that your fiance would ask this person to be a part of your wedding knowing how he behaves. Especially since it doesn’t even seem like they have a close relationship at this point in their lives.  Given that you wedding is well over a year away it was really too early to ask anyone to be a part of your bridal party anyway.  Since the day is so far out I assume this groomsman has not made any financial commitment to the wedding, but if he has, your fiance should reimburse him.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think if it’s important to your Fiance, then you should consider what you are asking him to do.  Ultimately, your Fiance should know whether or not he can trust these people, and you can leave it to your Fiance to make sure they are on good behavior and he can do all the introductions if it makes you uncomforatable.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Do you just not want him as a groomsman or do you also not want him at the wedding as a guest?

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