Post # 1

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Wannabee
Hi hi fellow bees. I’m a girl from the so called EasternEurope, but working for a bit of time in the WesternEurope. And I need advice as psychological/emotional stuff has been in a way a taboo in my country. Please help me to understand whether I need to see a doc or I’m a socially inept person. Sooo:
1. I do not like social events. They make me stressed. Big deal. I’m confused and Im scared. I’m usually ok if I have a couple of glasses of wine.
2. I really do not like small talk. It makes me uncomfortable. I’m feeling silly talking about weather and other general stuff.
3. I love details. But not in terms of numbers. Actually, I’m awful with numbers. Apart from shopping in a supermarket. But I can remember the color/pattern/fabric of a person’s outfit just after passing him/her by.
4. I sometimes remember car plate number of unknown cars I’ve seen 2 weeks before or other weird totally unrelated to me data or facts.
5. Sometimes, but very very really, when Im analysing documents, 2 sentences, obviously for some other people leading to one conclusion, lead me to 2 different conclusions. As if I’m seeing these two linked sentences as two separate.
Well, sorry, if this all sounds confusing, but I’d appreciate your view and advice. Thanx
Post # 3

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Busy Beekeeper
@TamaraLempicki: except for number five I am the same way with all of that. One of my friends works with autistic kids and has pointed out that I do have autistic tendencies but was probably not autistic.
I honestly don’t know much about autism but I don’t think the social aspects you described automatically point to autism. You could just be slightly socially awkward (like me). I don’t know about the other things.
Post # 4

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Busy bee
I doubt it. I mean if you’re concerned about something it’s best to talk to a doctor in real life.
To me you sound like a “normal”, introvert, who pays attention to details. But again, if you’re concerned talk to a doctor.
You may have a some social anxiety which a doctor or therapist could also help you figure out. But many people have social anxiety and feel uncomfortable in large groups.
Lets say you do have Austim… What would that label mean to you or do for you?
Post # 5

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Honey bee
Well the social items you mentioned are typical of most introverts. Despite the world being dominated by extroverts telling us we should love parties and crowds, a good bunch of us don’t, and that’s okay.
No one here can tell you if you are on the spectrum. Only a doctor can do that.
Post # 6

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Bumble Beekeeper
Actually, you sound like you have some sort of anxiety disorder… not autism at all.
Try looking up generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder and learn a bit more.
Post # 7

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Buzzing bee
@TamaraLempicki: If you’re worried, I would suggest just talking to a doctor. No one on here is going to be able to diagnose you, unfortunately. Good luck!
Post # 8

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Bumble Beekeeper
@TamaraLempicki: No one on here can give you the answers you seek. Go and see a doctor in real life.
Post # 9

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Worker bee
No. It doesn’t sound like autism at all.
Introverted? Yes.
Post # 11

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Bumble Beekeeper
Ok, so autism is a spectrum… it’s not always a clear cut diagnosis. You are usually only officially diagnosed when you are so far along the spectrum that you would benefit from treatment.
If you think you would benefit from treatment, a doctor can advise you. Otherwise, I would say that you were on the spectrum, but not clearly autistic.
Post # 12

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Helper bee
This really doesn’t seem like the right place to be asking…
Post # 13

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Buzzing bee
as other said, it would be super inappropriate for someone here to try to answer that question for you
eta-the first two are def true for me, too, and i’m just a shy/introverted person..especially around people i don’t know. i also have some social anxiety
Post # 14

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Bumble bee
No, does not sound like autism at all, and even if it was the onset would have to be prior to age 3.
If you look at all the things you’ve listed they’re also symptomatic of many other disorders including anxiety disorders.
And as previous posters have said, this isn’t the place to ask. A doctor would be the one to ask, especially one specializing in mental health.
Post # 15

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Bee Keeper
@vanike: +1
These can be symptoms of autism, but could also point to social anxiety disorder or even Avoidant Personality Disorder.