(Closed) Am I awful for not wanting to go to my work holiday party this year?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
1153 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@hotpinkbride:  I hear ya on not wanting to go to the party! I am 23w, not currently working but am very active in the local Junior League and they are having our “holiday party” in a couple of weeks at a local bar. I just can’t see myself getting all dressed up, going and dealing with all of the drunko’s. And let me tell you these Junior League ladies love to have a good time. Life gets busy around the holiday season, I’d just decline to go and say you have another obligation already. I can’t see anyone faulting you for already being “busy” that evening. I am however going to my 10 year HS reunion the Saturday after thanksgiving at a local resturant in the town I grew up in. I just found out, after buying my tickets, that the suggested dress code is cocktail attire, ugh, serioulsy, I now have to go get myself a maternity cocktail dress, you’ve got to be kidding me!

Post # 4
1868 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@hotpinkbride:  Don’t worry if you dont want to go. Pregnancy is a good excuse to get out of things you dont want to do. Ill be 33 weeks at the time of my Christmas p arty. It isnt super fancy so I dont have to buy a new outfit but if I did, I probably wouldnt want to go. I am also over the no drinking thing… it’s been so long I dont really care. I was a hermit for a while in the beginning though because I do love a coctail 🙂

Post # 6
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you don’t want to go and no one will miss you, don’t go!

The first trimester so pretty freaking miserable!


Post # 7
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@hotpinkbride:  If you don’t want to go, you have nothing to worry about – pregnancy is a good excuse.

If not going bothers you so much, do what I do (and I’m not prego): make an appearance, make the higher-ups believe that you are interested in the corporate culture, then leave early due to a “prior commitment.” I have major social anxiety (that can only be relieved with drinking), but banned myself from drinking at work functions (b/c I get carried away), so work functions are super brutal for me. I’ve learned to just make a brief appearance and then have some other commitment. Hell, you said there will be over 1k people there – I doubt anyone will notice you left early. “Have you seen hotpinkbride?” “Oh, she was just here! I’m sure she’s mingling somewhere.”

As for the drinking, drink seltzer with a lemon or something. 🙂 It looks like a vodka tonic so no one is the wiser.


Post # 8
4436 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@hotpinkbride:  I think most pregnant women can relate to your feelings- it’s not easy being pregnant! Sometimes you just want to stay in and put your feet up- who wants to go out when they feel bloated?! I’d stay home- if you’re just going to be uncomfortable, it’s not worth the effort imho.

Post # 9
1531 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@hotpinkbride:  Sounds alot like my work holiday party.  Don’t go if youre not feeling up to it.  Just say that you have another party that day or something….or get “sick”.  If I were in your shoes, I would definately not go.

Post # 10
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am not going because 1, I’m not ready to tell my boss even though I will be past 12 weeks at that point, and not drinking will give it away to SOMEone. And 2, they are making us pay to bring our spouses which I think is cheap so I’m boycotting.


Post # 11
1311 posts
Bumble bee

Nope, not at all!  I’m not pregnant and I don’t feel like going to most functions – when I have free time, I’d much rather be with my family and friends.

Post # 13
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Not pregnant, never been pregnant and I never want to go to mine. I’m an awful person haha!

I think you have a great reason to not go!

Post # 15
957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Preggers or not I don’t like going to work parties. So I don’t think you should worry.

Post # 16
1492 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

With as big as your company is and with how bad you feel I say totally skip it! DHs office always has a huge drinking fest party and since he’s VP I’m obligated to go. I wish I could skip it this year( especially because I always get social anxiety without drinking) but it would be noticed. 

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