Post # 1
I couldnt get to a friends wedding (as a bridesmaid) as it was a twelve hour flight away so obviously very expensive which i could not afford but chose to have her as my bridesmaid as local. Thought be nice gester but feel bad now. Anyone else have this dilemma?
Post # 3
@stars11: wait what? I don’t think I understand… how is it a 12 hour flight to get to her wedding for you but then at your wedding she’s local?
Is she having a destination wedding?
I don’t think its wrong to ask her to be in your bridal party if its local… she should understand the serious expense that her wedding posed for you and that was the only reason you declined…
It wasn’t that you DIDN’T want to be in the party… you just couldn’t afford to.
Post # 5
I’m assuming you didn’t bail at the last minute or anything… if you politely declined for logistical reasons, but then asked her to be in yours, I don’t see a problem. But she is also allowed to politely turn you down. I don’t see the problem in asking, though.
I’m just assuming she wasn’t counting on you or anything. If you turned her down in a respectful way I don’t see an issue.
Post # 6
If hers is a destination wedding, she should expect that most people will not be able to go due to financial reasons.