(Closed) am i awful?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@stars11:  wait what? I don’t think I understand… how is it a 12 hour flight to get to her wedding for you but then at your wedding she’s local?

Is she having a destination wedding? 

I don’t think its wrong to ask her to be in your bridal party if its local… she should understand the serious expense that her wedding posed for you and that was the only reason you declined…

It wasn’t that you DIDN’T want to be in the party… you just couldn’t afford to.


Post # 4
1934 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012


Post # 5
365 posts
Helper bee

I’m assuming you didn’t bail at the last minute or anything… if you politely declined for logistical reasons, but then asked her to be in yours, I don’t see a problem. But she is also allowed to politely turn you down. I don’t see the problem in asking, though.

I’m just assuming she wasn’t counting on you or anything. If you turned her down in a respectful way I don’t see an issue.

Post # 6
79 posts
Worker bee

If hers is a destination wedding, she should expect that most people will not be able to go due to financial reasons.

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