Post # 1
I need…. Im not sure whether is an advice, an opinion or what but just hear me out and give me your inputs..I am..currently going through one of the toughest times in my life..my fiance is currently incarcerated (its a very long story, but for something he didnt directly do) he was sentenced to 5 yrs in prison, right around the time we were gonna get married…so far He has done 3 years and really only have one more to go, and this entire time i have been 110% faithful and been waiting for him, but here is my concern: When he was home, we would have sex all the time, i became a sex addict with him ofcourse, and now since he has been gone for so long, i havent had the need for sex anymore, like my brain told my body it wasnt gonna happen so dont even try to get horney lol, but it got to the point where i dont think its a necessity in my life any longer…before just thinking about it made me horney, and now, not even that, and i am afraid once he gets back home i will subconsciently still feel i dont need sex, or view it as before…it is something will come back to me once we start having sex back again, or did i lost my sex appetite forever? Just thinking about it is making me go insane, please give me your opinions!
Post # 3
I’ve had my sex drive completely flat line before, although not for the reasons you have. FH and I weren’t seeing each other much and both of us were always too tired to even try to do it. It was tough sometimes because I’ve always enjoyed sex and wanted to have sex and to have it suddenly go away was weird.
I think that whenever FH gets out it’ll come back to you, kind of like I got mine back when FH and I moved in together.
Post # 4
@SouthernGirl: Well thats a relieve 🙂 i was very concerned that i have completely lost it since its ground zero. Thanks for sharing!
Post # 5
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With women, at least I’ve found: the more you have sex, the more you want to have sex and the hornier you’ll be. If you abstain, you’ll sort of slip into a no-sex-pattern and thats okay.. especially since your Fiance is incarcerated right now.
I would wait until he’s out to really make a judgement – I guarantee it’ll come back.
Post # 6
@Mrs. Eagle: That’s been my experience, definitely. When my ex and I broke up, we hadn’t had sex in a few months and it was easy to avoid jumping head-first into a rebound sex-based relationship after that. But once I did have sex again, it was all I could do to keep my hands to myself, heh. I agree that there’s a good chance that that’s all that is going on here.
Post # 7
Losing your sex drive does not make you asexual. A lot of things can cause you to lose your sex drive, including stress. You probably don’t have anything to worry about.
Post # 8
Thx you bees! Atleast thats one topic I can put to rest, i was very worried about it being gone forever, but I guess me thinking about that was part of the tension of this whole situation, and since its really the first time i have felt this way i was kinda worried, but not anymore, thx you all for sharing!
Post # 9
@Lonely16: I think that’s pretty normal. I am sure you will get it back when he returns. 3 years is a long time… just like anything else, it’s a habit you’ve gotten into. I’ve been in ruts that lasted a year+ and I didn’t miss it… I just got used to not having it.
Post # 10
@canarydiamond: atleast i know now that its normal 🙂