- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I think she’s being rude! I would never force my friends to do something like this, especially once they’ve said they aren’t interested! Just say no and stand your ground!
That’s why I try to control myself during wedding planning……and not be a bridezilla.
I know it will be funny watching you girls dance on the floor but if majority of you said no, she should know better. I thought of taking the advice from bee and ask the bestman to carry the ring pillow (he is a big guy)…. but I skipped that idea, as much as he is fun to hang out with, i don’t want to humiliate him in the public… .hey, I don’t want to risk friendship for that one god damn day.
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Totally bonkers. You are not the jesters at some Feast of Fools. There’s nothing worse than being asked to be the butt of other people’s amusement and a wedding is certainly not the place for this.
Sure, if she’s prepared to dance with you then maybe it’d be OK. But as a performer myself, I know that I’d never perform to a crowd unless I was 100% confident in my competence.
Just say no.
Personally I’d never do it. Someone could physically drag me to the dance floor and I would stand there. That’s just not a reasonable thing to ask of someone
As a guest watching, I would be uncomfortable knowing you were unci\omfortable. I don’t think it would be as funny as she thinks. Just say no! They did some crazy ass dancing at my daughters wedding but none of it was planned. It was all spontaneous. Dance off Bridesmaids against Groomsmen, Maid/Matron of Honor did a rap while the bride danced, and (don’t know what its called) two lines and people danced down the middle. And sometimes they danced like fools on purpose! It was great entrtainment but no one was forced to do it.
My personal opinion on any of these things that invole people getting up and performing a dance routine is just makes them look like show offs. In this case the bride for some reason wants to see you all make fools of herselve. Is that what she wants her wedding to be rememberd for?
You’re doing her a favour by saying no. Maybe good sense and good taste will return with time!!
There are too many replies now for me to go through and tag everyong, but thank you all so much for your opinions! I’m glad the prevailing opinion is that forcing people to dance is unreasonable.
I talked to her yesterday morning and managed to convince her that she definitely can’t order the guests to do this. I told her later that I was definitely very uncomfortable with the idea and would prefer not to do it because I’ll worry about it all day and not be able to concentrate properly on her actual wedding. In response, she threw a guilt trip on me and said that the others were fine with it and if I dropped out there wouldn’t be enough critical mass so she’d get rid of it. It was very frustrating because I’ve talked to the other bridesmaids and two of the three are also strongly against it, so I feel like she’s trying to manipulate and guilt us all into doing it, which makes me want to do it even less!
I’m now going to tell her that I’m definitely 100% not doing it and I won’t change my mind and if she hates me for it, then so be it. It’s quite ridiculous – I’m an adult, if I say that I don’t want to dance then just accept it!
My first thought on reading this was, *court jester*. It’s disturbing that she wants to use your bungling humiliation as entertainment. And very telling that she wants to sit back and watch rather than participate. Is she planning on throwing rotten tomatoes too?
I would straight up tell her that you are not her court jester/ dancing monkey and that wanting friends to humiliate themselves for her entertainment is very unbecoming.
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