Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
We pushed our wedding back a year; our new date is July 13 2013. While talking to a friend about the wedding I told her the new date. She seemed really annoyed about the date but didn’t say anything about it. This friend’s own wedding date is July 14 2014.
Is it a big deal that our dates are so close to each other? (Close as in similar, not close as in time-wise. They’re a full year apart.) I should note that the dates are not significant to either of us, we just picked a date that sounded good.
**Yes, I know I should talk to her about it. I plan on bringing it up next time we get together. I just wanted to get other people’s opinions on this.**
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
Wait… what? She’s upset because your dates are 365 days apart? That’s ridiculous.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
She really is just being selfish if she gets mad about it. I don’t think you’re a bad friend! It’s a whole YEAR and a DAY apart =)
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
That’s crazy talk. What’s her problem.. that you’ll be celebrating your anniversaries the same week?
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
If she’s upset (I haven’t talked to her yet, but it came across pretty obviously) it’s because our wedding dates are so similar. Almost like I “stole” her date.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
She doesn’t get to claim a whole month or whatever. So weird. No, you aren’t a bad friend. She is being weird.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
For real?
(I mean I know you’re real, and this post is real, but for serious, is your friend… for real? This is absurd.)
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
I should mention this is the friend that was angry at me for getting married before her, when she was engaged first. (Not my fault that you picked a date 4 years into the future…)
I think I’m over-thinking things here.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
Oh it’s just the same date…. Other than the fact that yours is a WHOLE year before hers.
I think you should definitely talk to her, apologize for the offense.
But otherwise by the time her’s even comes around for Save the Dates or invites Nobody is going to be remembering or thinking “Oh geeze…. they had almost the same date”
Do your part in apologizing for the offense and then just realize that hurting people hurt people… there’s something in her making her feel insecure and offended about it… let her keep her junk 😉
Post # 11
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Worker bee
umm, i could see where your friend would be coming from. it would annoy me– because the concept of your date is so similar to hers, AND you chose your date after the chose hers.
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
@jayOhwhy:
Yes, I can see why she would be upset. That’s why I’m asking if I’m being a bad friend. I wasn’t sure if it was really that big of a deal to have our wedding one day and one year before hers.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
I’m sorry, that is ridiculous. People like that must not have real problems to worry about.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Yeah, she’s out of line on this one. They’re a whole year apart. If it was me and my friend, I’d think it was cool.
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
We stole our best man’s date. We jokingly said we hoped they didn’t mind, but honestly I would have been really taken aback if they had said yes. It was the best date for us, and really, if I had eliminated all the dates of friends wedding (past and future) as potential wedding dates I’m not sure we could have found one that worked.
