(Closed) Am I being a bad hostess follow-up question?

posted 6 years ago in Home
  • poll: Can I ask my guests to bring their own towels?
    No, that's rude. : (115 votes)
    65 %
    Yes, its fine, since there are so many guests. : (62 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it’s totally fine. I’ve had people ask me to bring my own towel, and I never think twice about it. As a guest, I wouldn’t expect that you would have 6 extra towels lying around.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Since it’s so many people, I think it’s fine.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    3369 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I can level with you to an extent, but at the same time…how would you feel? Even if it takes going to Walmart and buying some of those $1.50/each towels, do it. I understand that you don’t necessarily want them there, but you should still make them feel welcome. 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    1935 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m going to disagree. Having to bring towels is definitely a pain, and then packing wet towels back into your bag? Not so much fun. If you’re going to host people, suck it up and run an extra load of towels. I’m assuming you have a washing machine, which does about 95% of the work. If you don’t have enough towels, go to Target or Wal-Mart and grab a few cheap ones. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    I probably would suck it up. We host FH’s family quite often, and I can sympathsize with you because it’s very stressful hosting all those people. But at the same time, you want them to feel welcome. I usually just make a big pile of sheets and towels when they leave and work on it through the week.

    But at the same time, we bring our own towels when staying with our grandparents, because we don’t want to burden them with extra work. So maybe a few guests will bring their own stuff?

    Post # 10
    Member
    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @coffeegal85: I would not ask this. To my mind picking up towels and putting them in the washer then dryer is barely any work at all. I would feel very awkward and unwelcome staying in someones house who asked me to bring my own towel. Of course if it were for another reason like you dont have a washer/dryer and needed to go to a laundromat to wash all these towels I could kind of understand, or you just moved in and you dont own enough towels maybe, but I still wouldn’t write this to anyone. 

    If you tell this to people it would be really obvious that you really didn’t want them to stay but you are allowing them to on the condition that they dont give you 1 minutes extra laundry time.

     

    Post # 11
    Member
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I mean, I wouldn’t phrase it like that, but I think it would be fine to say “If you wouldn’t mind, could you bring towels from home? I’m afraid I do not have enough spare sets to cover all of my guests!”

    Post # 12
    Member
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Sorry I think it’s kinda rude. I think it depends on your age/income if you can ask people to bring towels. It was fine in college, but since you have a 4 bedroom house I think they’ll think it’s a weird request.

    Walmart has okay white towels for $4 each.

    Post # 13
    Member
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it’s fine.  I always bring my own towel when I visit someone so that way they don’t have to worry about it.  The sheets are enough!

    Post # 15
    Member
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Sorry…I’m with the gals who think it’s a little rude to ask your guests to bring their own towels. I understand that they’re your husband’s guests, but you’re married now, so they’re your guests too. If you’re allowing them to stay, you should provide them with towels. Packing a wet towel is never fun…

    Post # 16
    Member
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I guess I’m weird, but when I stay at someone’s house I always bring my own towels! So I don’t think it’s odd to ask them to bring their own.

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