(Closed) Am I being a bad hostess?

posted 6 years ago in Home
  • poll: Am I being a bad hostess?
    Yes : (70 votes)
    54 %
    No : (60 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 4
    7293 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Well how many bedrooms do you have?

    Post # 5
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t think you’re obligated to host them, but it would probably be a very nice gesture. Also, since all of you are going to the game together on Sunday, maybe they wanted to be able to spend time hanging out together on Saturday too.

    Post # 7
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Do you have space for them?


    Is Hubby going to get the food/snacks at the store for them?


    “Plus that’s a lot of laundry to do! “

    What does this mean?  Guests shouldn’t have to need laundry done after one night!

    Post # 8
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Mention to your husband that for this one time it’s okay, (It’s not a whole weekend, just one night) but never ask that many people again unless you have a maid to help … That’ll make him realize how much WORK there is in hosting 6 people! (hopefully…)

    Post # 9
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would suck it up and do it.  It might be more fun than you think.  I recently had 3 additional people stay in my one bedroom apartment (5 ppl total, 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom) and it was fine.  I think 8 people in a 4 bedroom house will work.

    Post # 10
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Let them all use the spare bathroom, no need to offer your Master bath.  We have 3 spare rooms and 2 spare baths, I leave my room and bath out of the equation with houseguests.


    I’d say to my H that I don’t feel like hosting, but he wants to clean up/take care of food, then go for it!


    I’m curious about the laundry though.

    Post # 12
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would feel the same way. I would not want to host that many people.

    Post # 13
    5959 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I don’t think it’s a question of good or bad….but a messy house and laundry can’t be your real problem, can it?  Maybe you just need to have your personal space and freak out if people are in it too long, that is an ok thing….we have a lot of parties at our house, and more often than not, the next morning there’s a couple of people that ended up staying over….we feed them and let them shower, then they’d better get the hell outta my house because I am done playing hostess! 

    There are things I do on the weekends that are for me and me alone, and I sure as Hell will not abstain for the honor of some people’s company….all of our friends are aware of this rule, I work really hard during the week, if someone gums up my mud mask facial, horror movie watching, bathtub soaking while drinking an ice cold beer ritual, they’d better be ready to have my freshly pedicured foot shoved up their ass, because that is MY time!

    Post # 14
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You totally have the space. I’d just let it happen this one time – your place is HUGE and it could be really fun!

    Post # 16
    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you don’t want to host them, you’re under no obligation, especially if you don’t have enough room or just plain feel it will cause you undue stress.  I think you just need to go with your gut feeling and not let it bother you whether you’re being “good” or “bad”.

    I just was going through something slightly similar. My sister asked if she and BIL could stay with us the weekend after we got back from our honeymoon.  I said sure before I remembered that we had gotten rid or all our guest beds and the only option was the two sofas.  I stressed for about a day and said “screw it” and went with the direct approach.   “You’re welcome to stay but we only have sofa’s or I can borrow an air mattress”.  They opted for a hotel.  Problem solved.


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