(Closed) am I being a brat??

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think this is a choice between you being a brat and your sister letting you have your own way.

In this case, I think the courteous choice for your guests would be to have it closer to where the majority of them live.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well for the most part if she is throwing you your shower she should get to decide all of the details. However, she did ask for your opinion.

I think telling her not to throw you a shower because she won’t do it where you want it is a little bratty but I don’t understand why she would ask you if your opinion doesn’t matter.

I hope you guys can talk this out and make everyone happy!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you would be being a brat at all for standing your ground about the location.  Inconveniencing all the other guests for her own sake is not cool.  I feel for you on the pink thing, but I’d probably let that slide too and focus on the location.  Good luck dear!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

@crystalirene: wait  – I don’t get it.  She asked you where you’d like to have it and then decided it should be at her house?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

First of all take a deep breath.

Now talk to your sister about the location and your concerns about people not coming. If you do not mind having it at your place then that would be perfect.Tell her you do not think people will attend if they have to drive far out of their way. If she poo poos it then just tell her that you have spoken to several people and they would not like to travel that far.

As for the decor, that is a minor thing. No one is going to remember it in a year except you. If you are going to try to make this work then I personally would push for a changed location and just ignore the decorations. If the decorations mean that much to you then make sure she knows that the wedding colors are traditionally used for the decorations and maybe that will sway her.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

You kind of have to choose your battles, it seems, location or pink. I’m not having a shower and really wish I were.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@crystalirene: Then you make sure she understand that she is inconveniencing the guests by not making it accesible for them. End of story. I would also put in there if it is too much trouble for you to do it elsewhere than I can ask someone else to handle it.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m torn on this – my sister sounds very much like yours.  I’d tell her you very much appreciate her offering to throw you a shower (it is a VERY kind thing for her to do (regardless if she was planning something hot pink)).  She didn’t have to do it and showers take a lot of time, effort, money, and planning!  That said – just because she is offering to throw you one, doesn’t mean that you need to take her up on it.  Just tell her you think it will be an inconvenience to your guests for them to travel that far, and you are choosing to pass on her offer.  BUT.BE.GRACIOUS.ABOUT.IT.

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

Let us know what happens

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Glad to hear that it all worked out 🙂

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