(Closed) Am I being a brat?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Am I crazy for being pissed about my SIL skipping the reception
    Yes : (75 votes)
    60 %
    No : (50 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think you’re being a crazy bitch. I would be kind of pissed too. A 20 year reunion is a big enough deal that I understand her wanting to go and trying to fit both in, so I wouldn’t be SUPER angry or hurt. But still, I’d definitely be a little bit mad.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It’s a selfish move on her part, I’d be mad.  Who wouldn’t want to be at their siblings wedding anyways??

    Post # 5
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    No! What is her reason?

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think you can be upset, but at the same time it’s understanable. A 20 year reunion is an exciting thing! I think the main point to remember is that she is trying to balance what is important to you as well as what is important in her life. Think about it from the perspective of you being in her shoes. Wouldn’t you want to go to both if you could? The ceremony is the most important part so I think that if you’re upset it’s best kept to yourself. She is making an effort to please everyone in this situation. It’s not like she’s completely blowing off your wedding and I am sure she is eager to see you and your family as well as the friends she hasn’t seen in ages. I don’t think it’s something you can hold against her.  

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I could see her leaving a littl early maybe, but just not going to the reception is kind of a big deal to me. I wouldn’t do that to my brother or my SIL.

    Post # 8
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I think I’d be a little bit upset, but really, she has a right to do something else that day. She is going to be there for a part of it, and the ceremony is the most important part. You only get one chance at your 20 year reunion…

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i dont think you are crazy to be upset but she might have a personal reason/something to prove to want to attend the reunion – personally i would choose a wedding over a reunion, i dont get people that hang onto their old school memories but to each their own

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I understand why you would be dissappointed but i dont think you should let it get you too upset. Maybe her reunion is important to her, and the ceremony is the most important part of a wedding anyway so as long as she is around for that you shouldnt let it get you too upset. She has other things in her life besides your wedding, so just be happy that she can attend part of it.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it’s pretty reasonable to be upset about what’s happening, but not as reasonable to be upset AT her.  Does that make sense?  She’s family so it’s upsetting that she’s not going to be staying for the reception, but at the same time, this is something that is a very big deal to her and that cannot be rescheduled.  It’s totally OK to be bummed she’s not coming, and it’s totally OK to be pissed off at the fact that the events are the same day.  But I don’t think she’s actually wronged you – as much as her decision is hurting you, she didn’t make it because she doesn’t want to be there for you.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    In my opinion, the most important part of a wedding is the ceremony. As long as she attends that, I’b be okay with her skipping the reception.

    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper

    Its understandable to feel slighted but the ceremony is the most important part. Beside, I do think a 20 year class reunion is a pretty good reason to miss on reception and its not like she just found out about it. Its been in the works for her to attend.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would definitely be hurt, but at the same time- I can see a 20 year reunion being a big deal too- you really only see some of these people once in a blue moon- so her coming to the ceremony and I assume family pictures etc- is a compromise I think is pretty fair.  

    So you are both right- just try not to let it get to you.  

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