- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
no ones going to outshine you.
no ones going to outshine you.
I’ve never seen a bridesmaid outshine the bride. Don’t worry about it.
I think it’s fine to ask for a simple style/look for hair and makeup.
I dont think it’s fine to ban high end makeup and hair extensions.
I also don’t think she should get her FACE tattooed ever, much less 2 days before a big event- but good luck bringing that one up.
And ultimately… I don’t think a Bridesmaid or Best Man could ever outshine a bride!
thanks for the feedback!
yes, i was planning on getting my hair and makeup professionaly done, and offering that service to any of the girls who would want it. but my friend wants to wear her hair down, and is insisting on stying it herself with the extensions. i really hope the eyebrow tattoo heals in time, i hadn’t thought of that. it’s bothering me a little that she doesn’t think at all about how i would like her hair or shoes (a couple of the other girls asked me right away what i would like them to wear for footwear, hair etc., and just the fact that they thought to ask was so appreciated). this girl is just totally self absorbed in how she is going to look and i don’t think she has really thought about anything else. it’s all she talks about is how she is going to do this for the wedding and that for the wedding, so i think its probably her attitude more than anything that has me vexed. :/ but if i say anything , then I’m the bad guy. at least i can vent on here , so thank you. 🙂
There will always be someone prettier, thinner, taller, smarter, funnier, more successful, richer etc. than you.
If she wants to get hair extensions, eyelash extensions, tattooed eyebrowns, high heels, then she can do so. She will not outshine you, you are the bride and everyone will be focused on you and your new husband.
Just adding to the camp who are telling you NO one will be comparing you to her. The people who are coming to your wedding are there to support YOU and on the day you will definitely feel that. 😀
Personally I think your friend is being really thoughtless, but I would let it go and let her have her extensions etc. YOU are the bride. She can’t outshine you.
Yes I definitely think you are being a bridezilla! Sorry but to me it sounds like this girl is so excited for your wedding and going to lots of efforts to look good for you on your special day. I’m not sure how you can call her your dear friend in one breath and then complain about her in this way. And as PP said – what is so ‘kind’ about buying dresses they will like??
You sound like you have a few insecurities/issues that you need to work on. The bride will always be the centre of attention and will look pretty.
Can I also just say, I was once a bridesmaid for a real bridezilla once, she was not nice but she was defo extreme compared to you. I asked her about hair, she said she had no plans and wasnt fussed. I got my hair in a bob and she went mental, it had been shoulder length before. She told me no bridesmaids were having jewels or flowers in their hair on the morning of the wedding the other two bridesmaids had loads of lovely clips and i had nothing. I’d asked about shoes she said whatever you like as long as its silver or cream. I bought silver, she went mental and said her sister had cream so I needed cream. She insisted that we met every week to practice a fun dance for her wedding. I can honestly say when the day was over I had a huge sigh of relief, it actually put me off getting married until a year ago (hers was 3 years back) and we are barely friends anymore. Please be totally honest about what you want, don’t be a diva about it because your friendship is not worth ruining for what is basically one day out of your life.
If you are paying for hair then you can completely say to have it up, i wear hair extensions 50% of the time and have had them in when i’ve been bridesmaid and found my hair actually went up better with them in, also eyelash extensions dont have to look over the top, especially the semi perm ones they tend to look more natural anyway.
i think your worrying over nothing, i can honestly say ive never been to a wedding where i’ve been looking at the bridesmaids thinkin wow they look waaaaaay hotter than the bride, it doesnt even enter my head as im too busy looking how beautiful, happy and lovely the bride/groom look.
I was in a wedding where I lost 15 pounds before so I would look extra good. Guess I should have just stayed a fat ass!
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