- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Okay, so Fiance and I have moved our date up from May 2014 to August 10th 2013. This is because A.) we revamped our wedding plans and opted for a very casual, inexpensive potluck type reception. It is outdoors at a free pavilion and will only include close family and friends. The second reason is B.) Due to school and finances, we have been engaged since 2010 and I am really just ready for my wedding to happen already.
My half sister was chosen to be my Maid/Matron of Honor from day one because I was hers (at the age of ten). She lives in Arizona and we live in Ohio. We have had a stressfull relationship for a while now and she has been passive aggressive about my wedding planning from the start. I feel inclined to include that she has been separated from her husband for about six years, but is engaged to a new man as of December. If you want a few more details/examples of our relationship, I posted a different thread here:
So today I texted her and explained what was going on and why we chose to change things and she responded by saying August wouldn’t work for her because she is going through her divorce and bankruptsy and has everything planned out financially. I asked if September would work better and she said she wouldn’t be able to afford to fly out anytime for the rest of this year and that 6 months isn’t enough time for her.
I felt awful about this. Fiance said we should continue with August because my sister hasn’t been very supportive to begin with. Both my parents and my Future Mother-In-Law said the same thing and that Fiance and I should work in each others’ best interest and no one elses.
I sent her a Facebook message (btw, I didn’t call her during any of this because she is on a different time and is at work all day) saying:
“Sorry I didn’t get back to you earlier; my phone died. I’m really sorry that things are rough with you right now. I really want you there, but I understand that things are tight with you. I hope as we get closer, something happens that enables you to come, but just know I will be thinking of you and I miss you.”
She texted me back saying,
“Are you pregnant??? Is that why you are moving your wedding up 9 months? And lucky for you, Facebook sent me a notification to my email that you messaged me!!! If you would have paid attention to any of my posts, you would have noticed that I gave up Facebook for LENT and wouldn’t have gotten that message until APRIL!!!”
FYI, the pregnancy thing is a really sore subject for her because she has been told that her chances of getting pregnant are very slim and she is 36 so…this is something she is always asking me.
I feel terrible. I do. But on the other hand…she never made her divorce a priority until now. She says she is strapped until the end of the year but I also see her posting photos of trips to see friends and having people fly in and getting tattoos, etc. What do I do? I don’t mean to sound bitter, I really don’t. But I was so happy this morning when Fiance and I decided to have a simple, intimate, stress free wedding and now I feel like I’m a jerk.