(Closed) Am I being a crybaby?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Why can’t you have a bridal shower at home? I live in NJ and I’m flying to FL for my bridal shower

Post # 4
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know how you feel about being away from friends and planning.  It’s tough but don’t you still want to have your friends there on the day of your wedding to celebrate with you?

Post # 6
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Amira I’m in your same situation.. don’t take it that way, there’s a bright side! A LOT LESS drama!!!!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I understand completely! I moved to Virginia 2 years ago from Michigan where most of my family is. This was the first time I’ve been away from home and boy do I miss it. So much so that we plan on moving back sometime after the wedding.

We thought about moving back sooner this year and have the wedding there, but would of been so stressful and money would be super tight, so we’re having it here. Pretty much all of the guests are from out-of-state, so lots can’t come.

It sucks reading about how other people have all their loved ones there helping out every step of the way, when you know you won’t have that. You feel like your missing out on a lot of special moments; like your being cheated out of this magical experience that you only get once in a lifetime. It’s painful.

What I try to do is email everything to my mom and friends. Pictures, budget ideas, vendor websites – everything. I try and include them in as much as possible. It helps a bit, although to be completely honest, it never gets rid of the loneliness.

The one thing I did was I drove the 12 straight hours home and stayed a week with my parents last October. My mom and I spent 4 days going to every bridal shop in the area til we found my wedding dress. Yes, it wasn’t the same experience dress shopping as most people, but it was still something and I was able to share it with her.

Chin up deary – it may not be your ideal situation, but there are ways to make it work. It’ll all work out fine, trust me.  🙂

 

(btw, if you ever need some encouragement or anything – i check my messages regularly)

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I get it too. 2 weeks after we got engaged we moved to Tucson, where we did not know a SOUL. I am flying to Texas next week for my bridal shower, but none of my bridesmaids will be there as my family is in Texas and my bridesmaids are in California. I talk on the phone ALOT. I email ALOT. you would be surprised at how involved people want to be! So even though they aren’t there in person, you can collaborate!

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