- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Okay bees, bring me back to Earth.
My bachelorette party was last weekend.. and I had a miserable time. Now I’m trying to figure out if I was justifiably upset, or if I was just being a brat. Truly, please be honest. If I was being a brat, I want to know.
The plans were to go out to eat and then go to the bars. However, the day of, the Maid/Matron of Honor realized she forgot to make reservations for dinner. The place we told everyone to meet told her there was no way they could seat 15 people for several hours. She then called another place and decided we would go there and try to walk-in. She asked a bridesmaid to get there early and the bridesmaid agreed. The bridesmaid got lost on her way to the restaurant and didn’t get there early. By the time we arrived they said it would be at least 5 hours before they could seat our party, unless we were willing to split up into tables of four around the restaurant. By that time, I was bummed but I said it was whatever everyone else prefered. We went on to a third restaurant, and were able to eat together.
From there we went to the bars. One of the bridesmaids immediately took the reigns and led us to a bar without consulting anyone else. She wanted us to go there so that she could meet up with her sister. We were able to get a table, which was nice. Said bridesmaid sat in the middle of everyone – inviting her sister in (who joined the party without saying hello to anyone) and talked loudly about herself for the majority of the party. It is bratty of me to say that, I know. But she continued to talk about the dates she had recently been on and the other weddings she was in, without ever even acknowledging me or a majority of the other guests. It made it impossible for us to have a conversation as a table so people began sort of grouping off. Most of my friends are from different places so they all knew eachother but most of them only knew one other person well. It began to kind of pair off and I was primarily left by myself – I was able to engage myself in conversations by asking other people questions and things like that but I sort of felt left out. No one really seemed to make an effort to engage me in conversation. The maid of honor was on the very opposite end of the table from me and I thought she was going to cry, she looked so upset but she didn’t do anything.
Then, the same bridesmaid mentioned above looked at her sister and said so she “should we all grab our checks and move on?” Her sister agreed. Bridesmaid asks sister “where are you going next?” her sister tells her a bar and the bridesmaid turns to me and says ‘We’re going to X bar next’. I was astonished and frustrated. The Maid/Matron of Honor looked at me and said ‘is that where you want to go?’ I told her that I had another place in mind. Disgusted, the bridesmaid looked at her sister and said ‘should we go to the bar that she said?’ her sister said ‘I wouldn’t suggest it but you can if you want to.’ So they decided we would go to the bar that they wanted to go to.
We followed and went to the next bar. They, along with pretty much everyone else at the party, didn’t pay any attention to me or the maid of honor. There was one bridesmaid that even told me she felt terrible because the party wasn’t going well and she wasn’t sure what to do. I was embarrassed. I’ve always thought of myself as having great friends (I have 10 bridesmaids) and I really felt like no one cared about me.
The next time the bridesmaid approached me, was to tell me the next bar that we were going to. We wound up going back to the original bar we were at and then going home.
I recently had moved away from where I used to live and I guess maybe with wedding planning and life keeping me busy, I have just grown apart from everyone more than I had realized.
I’m really bummed now. Am I just being a bridezilla under stress or was I right to be upset? Was anyone else’s bachelorette party a bust?