Post # 31
You are fine bee, she’s the one in the wrong. The way she was messaging you is really off putting. She’s trying to dictate YOUR wedding date, that’s over a year away, because she has an annual vacation then??
No. Go with the date YOU want, and if she can’t be there, oh well. That is her choice. This alone would severly damage my friendship with that person. Most normal people would just push a trip back a day, or schedule it for a nearby weekend, and attend their friend’s wedding. Psuhing, controlling, ‘better than thou’ people try and pull this. Don’t put up for it.
Post # 32
Wow – your friend is being ridiculous! I can’t fathom ever being that selfish.
Your wedding is once in a lifetime, her anniversary happens every single year. Pick June 29 and let her decide whether or not she wants to be in the wedding.
Post # 33
Agree she’s being ridiculous and her attitude kinda sucks. It’s your wedding, so your priorities (school term/schedules) are more important. If they cannot attend, it’s fine. Not everyone you wish to invite could join your celebration and that’s okay. But don’t be angry at them if they prioritize their anniversary trip and decide not to come. Hope this won’t affect your friendship with the couple.
Post # 34
I’m getting married August 18th, and my Maid/Matron of Honor and his groomsman’s wedding anniversary is August 19th. It doesn’t bother them at all. Your friend is being dramatic.
Post # 35
Your friend comes across as a demanding diva in those texts. And you sound reasonable in your response.
If she can’t come, oh well. She doesn’t own the end of June.
Post # 36
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
You should remove names from the text screenshots for anonymity.
Do your wedding on June 29, it’s not up to her.
Post # 37
I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla to have your wedding on the day of your choosing, as long as you understand that your friend may not be there (which it sounds like you are). Don’t plan your wedding around her vacation!
Post # 38
brookeee16 : your friend is the bridezilla here – she seems to think the rest of the world revolves around her wedding date forevermore. She needs to get over it. She literally picked THE MOST POPULAR wedding month in the US. So it’s on her that sometimes other things might come up. The only way I’d have even the remotest of sympathy for her would be if it’s their first anniversary (which is pretty special and i would skip another event to celebrate with my husband), or like their 10th or 25th or something. Otherwise, she’s being a total B
Post # 39
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
Um, she should take her anniversary trip the week before or after the wedding. That’s what I’d do if I were her.
Post # 40
She’s being unreasonable and selfish. It’s only ONE year, it’s not like she has to not travel every year after that. It won’t kill her to take her anniversary vacay a day or two later.
Post # 41
It’s absurd that she thinks her desire for a holiday to be on a certain day trumps your desire for your WEDDING to be on a certain day! You’ve given her loads of notice, her holiday isn’t even booked, and their anniversary isn’t even on the same day as your wedding. I definitely don’t think you should delay your wedding by three months to have it in October just so she can maybe go on holiday before her anniversary! It’s so selfish of her.
Post # 42
penguin8407 : “She shouldn’t be upset and forcing you to change your date, but you should be understanding if she can’t attend.” + 100
brookeee16 , I think this is all you need to know and how to react. Plan your wedding and enjoy! 🙂
Post # 43
They will have anniversaries every year for the rest of their married life. You will only have one wedding. GOD FORBID they miss being on vacation on their actual anniversary one time…
Eyeroll. She’s a nutcase.
Post # 44
Choose the date that works best for you two. But if your friend and the Best Man step down, then you have to accept that as well.
I’m getting married a very popular wedding weekend (and holiday weekend) so it wouldn’t surprise or bother me if a friend/family member chose it too one day or we were invited to a memorial day party on our anniversary. We can always celebrate the following day or weekend.
Post # 45
a REAL friend would never put you in this situation. You are Not-overacting, she’s being a bitch.