Am I being bridezilla?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 61
41 posts
  • Wedding: June 2019

OMG they are so rude. 

Post # 62
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

She’s the one who’s being unreasonable.. She has no right to make you have your wedding based on her convenience. 

Post # 63
1789 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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brookeee16 :  aw poo. just noticed you posted a new topic. are you deciding to change the date because of her?!

Post # 64
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

She is being absurd. She has got a whole big dose of reality coming her way one of these days because they aren’t going to be able to take their precious anniversary trips like this forever, so her attitude is just completely ridiculous. One day something else is going to happen to cause them to not be able to take this trip and she’s going to have to suck it up like the rest of us adults do. 


Get married when you want, because the date seems to be meaningful to you and your fiance. She is completely in the wrong to talk to you like that. At the end of the day, if she chooses to go on her anniversary trip over going to your wedding, that is her right to do so, but she should absolutely not be trying to bully you into changing your wedding date to accommodate plans she hasn’t even made yet. 

Post # 65
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’d understand if she already had the days taken off being upset- but she sounds more demanding and rude honestly. If the wedding isn’t until 2019 then most likely she hasn’t taken those days or made travel plans (airlines don’t book that far out). I would just do what you want to do and if she truly wants to be there, they will be there. Don’t plan or base anything in your wedding around anyone else except you and your FH. If she’s being this dramatic about the day, I honestly wouldn’t want to see what else she’s dramatic over.

Post # 66
4852 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I personally would move my date to accomodate my best friend (we did), but my best friend is not self-absorbed like your Maid/Matron of Honor.  I don’t think it makes you a bridezilla to have your wedding when you want to, as long as you’re understanding if your best friend decides their annual annivesary trip is more important.  I don’t mind delaying trips, but if I had already booked it, I’m not sure I would cancel for a wedding that has not yet been booked. 

Post # 67
229 posts
Helper bee

This is really silly. My husband’s friend went to our wedding and decided she liked the date so much that she wanted the same one. So our 1st anniversary was spent at her wedding. We made it a fun trip, and we laughed the whole time about how much more fun it was to go to a wedding that we didn’t have to pay for, and we could just enjoy. We drank, we ate, we danced, and then we went back to the hotel and had a WONDERFUL time celebrating… 😉

I don’t understand your friend here. Things happen in life, if she is your best friend she should want to be there for you. Yeah it sucks that it messes with her plans, but you are literally giving her a YEAR OF NOTICE, so there’s no way she has already booked anything. She can just make THIS her anniversary trip. If it was June of 2018 I could see her annoyance since it would be so last minute, but she is definitely in the wrong here. #maidofhonorzilla

Post # 68
52 posts
Worker bee

One of my biggest regrets is trying to be accommodating to too many people and letting this dictate most of our plans. Plan your wedding as it suits you best. She’ll either get over it and attend or skip your wedding. Either scenario won’t stop you from getting married. 

Post # 69
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Regardless of whether you change the date for her, I would think long and hard about making this friend your Maid/Matron of Honor. If you do, I suspect we’ll be seeing you back here in the thick of wedding planning asking what to do about her behavior.

Post # 70
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Totally agree with what others have said. It’s your wedding. Do what works for you within reason. And you are being reasonable! Reading those texts made me mad and I’m not even involved. I give you credit for not going off on her. I can’t say I wouldn’t have lost my cool!

At the end of the day though, she’s not being a very good friend. I have a friend who I’ve since distanced myself from who often acted this way. It was toxic. Sorry bee 🙁

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