(Closed) Am I being cheap?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Am I being cheap?
    Yes : (97 votes)
    53 %
    No : (85 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 91
    2691 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    girlseeksring:  what!? You are suggesting she buys him a random ring he didn’t ask for and tell him what he originally wanted was tacky and innapropriate so too bad!? 

    What makes this ring innapropriate exatly?

    OP – DO NOT do this… smh

    Post # 92
    2691 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Etassy:  Sorry OP I may have missed this but why do you have to solely buy his wedding band. Shouldn’t this be a joint expense?

    I have to say you don’t have to like it. Like many bee’s say about the womans ring and how they should love it your Fiance should love his as well , regardless of what you think. It’s only fair…

    Post # 94
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    bklynbridetobe:  Oh, I didn’t mean to imply that that was YOUR logic (non-native speaker here, so bear with me!). My reply was just directed at you because you mentioned that being a frequent reaction to similar posts on the Bee and I wanted to comment on that. Sorry if that didn’t come across. Basically I really wanted to support your advocacy of fairness when it comes to ring choices. I wouldn’t expect my Fiance to spend money on a ring he doesn’t like and at the same time I wouldn’t want to buy one I don’t like. In OP’s original post it sounded like she had no input on the design of her e-ring whatsoever and if that were the case, she should at least have a say in her FI’s ring choice if he expects her to buy it. Granted, the old post you mentioned changes things a bit, but it definitely doesn’t change the fact that she can’t afford it.

    Post # 95
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014


    Post # 96
    587 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Etassy:  This is a little off topic, but you originally said that you wanted black, and then changed to yellow, but now you are saying you had no input. Which is it? Did you or did you not choose your ring?

    Post # 97
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I voted yes before I read your first response to comments, so now I’m changing it to no. That’s a toonnnn of money for that ring, especially for a student. I’m a student and thought the $450 I spent on my FI’s ring was rough haha.

    Post # 99
    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    Etassy:  why so much? Is it that little diamond that makes it so much? Crazy my Fiance would never let me pay that for a band. I think it’s a little bit expensive. 

    Post # 100
    636 posts
    Busy bee


    So, you have zero money, and the only opportunity you have to make any money is during this coming summer when you are taking classes AND studying for the MCAT (your shot at getting into a decent med school), but he needs this exorbitantly priced ring, and he needs for it to be paid for by you and you alone.

    Which means, he WANTS you to add in a heavy work load onto already existing summer classes and MCAT studying, thereby jeopardizing your future (by undermining your MCAT studying and grades).

    And this is somehow justified because he spent entirely too much money, of his own volition, without your approval or input, on a ring that he and your mother designed to suit their own tastes instead of yours.


    Post # 101
    636 posts
    Busy bee

    HannahGrace:  She’s cheap because she doesn’t want to spend money that she doesn’t actually have?


    Post # 102
    6441 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Etassy:  Jesus, my set was less that $1K and you’re worried over spending $23K?  for that amount, get something that’s not stamped Cartier on it.

    Post # 103
    4767 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    What is that poll for real?? *hides $500 engagement and wedding ring* 

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