(Closed) Am I being Cheap??? Website RSVP or Phone call

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We did website rsvps only. then for ppl who don’t go online, we followed up by their preferred method of communication (phone or a relative) to get their RSVP. For ppl who missed the deadline, we followed up by their preferred method (email, phone, text, fb pm).

more than 3 months out and only 13-15 ppl haven’t responded out of 188. It’s been wonderful. 

If you do website RSVP, I highly recommend also emailing your guests with a link to the website to make it even easier for them to just click and RSVP Instead of needing to remember the website and type it in correctly.

I also recommend taking rsvps however theyre given. For example, with ppl who didn’t RSVP by the deadline, we didn’t ask them to go on the site and RSVP, instead we just asked them if they were coming and we entered their response on the site ourselves (since they hadn’t). 

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

My friend did this and I didn’t think cheap I thought THANK GOODNESS! I didn’t have to worry about driving to the post office to mail it back and I had a chance to read over her wedding website which included a lot of info that was not included in the invitation.  I’m doing the online thing as my group would hate having to mail the card back or would probably lose it before having the chance to mail it back.     

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Post # 18
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Worker bee

This is such a good idea! For those that did this, where did you put the info for the website? On your invite? Did anyone do RSVP by email??

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We’re planning to include cards and stamped envelopes for our older guests. Everyone else is getting the website / phone call option only.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

BohoMama:  I’m doing them just by e-mail and phone, without having a website.  I’m about 30-40% responded with about 3 weeks to go before the dead line for RSVPs and the invites being out about 3 weeks.  I’m getting a few more phone calls than I expected, but that is cool.

If you do it this way, the key is flexablity.  I am taking RSVPs how ever I get them.  My cousin sent me a facebook message.  A couple friends told Fiance at his bachlor party they were coming while one told him he wouldn’t be.  A few other friends told me at my shower that they would be showing up.  Another did the same at a friend’s baby shower.  They all went on the list.   I don’t care how you tell me as long as you tell me. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We did RSVP on the website, via email or phone.  I’d say 80% RSVPd online.  It wasn’t a big deal at all. Saved on stamps and cards…

 

We had a one page invite, then a smaller card that said “we have 2 seats saved in your honor”, and instructions to RSVP on them.  I think it said “Please RSVP via website www, by email or by phone”. 

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Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t think this is cheap at all!!! I did the same thing..RSVP online and by phone. I know most guests will not bother with replying by mail and think it’s just a hassle (at least I do). I had to mail out a cheque the other day and I was like why can’t I just do a bank account transfer?? Why waste money on stamps?? For those that aren’t tech saavy they can contact us through phone.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

I don’t think it’s cheap, but it’s definitely a more modern take for weddings. I know if I tried to do this, a LOT of people I’d be inviting would turn their noses up. If you don’t think your guests are traditional, then I would say it’s a good way to save money.

 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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JJSoon2bwife14:  I didnt know you could do that thru google!!! That is awesome. Does it just go to a voicemail or something? I love this idea!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

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JJSoon2bwife14:  You’re not being cheap at all.  Website RSVPs are super convenient for everyone involved (IMO).  It’s what we did.  We did need to track down a few responses by calling people a week after the deadline.  But that would have happened regarldess of RSVP method.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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JJSoon2bwife14:  That is just too cool! I will be adding this option on too. We are looking for easy ways to save money so this combined with website/email rsvps is awesome. THANK YOU!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’ve had two friends now use website RSVPs. I will give a small warning that the first time I used a website RSVP, my response didn’t go through, so I had to text the bride and let her know. Apparently I wasn’t the only one having trouble. If you do website RSVPs, just make sure you have someone test it first to make sure you receive responses.

Personally, I would advise having a second option. I know my grandmothers don’t own a computer and may get confused and frustrated with having to tell someone else to RSVP. Plus they’re both super traditional. I think I’ll probably do RSVP cards and website RSVP to give people options, but if you need to save money, I think just using the website is a great idea if all your guests can take advantage of it.

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