Post # 1
i am a traditional girl that comes from a tradtional place. all i wanted was for someone to pick up a freakin twist tie takes 5 seconds to get down on one knee n ask, then at my wedding be nice n happy next to my wonderful man. i have asked for help n advice on thre sites n all anyone can say is if you really love him. trust me i dont need to defend myself, i love him. deeply. now then, PLEASE, lend me a little advice. my darling love and i were laying together one day n it just kinda came up ok lets gets married, if anything i was closer to asking then him, since then no proposal. no i love you will you marry me, no effort, no sweetness, no anything. i also still dont have the ring almost three months later which is annoying but really not that bad n honestly with the let down of no proposal i was like at least theres the surprise factor of the ring n where n when, youll still have your tiny celebrating moment. yesterday he came up to me n straight showed me my ring n the email saying itll be ready in a week so there goes that. then now we had to move the wedding date six months back to next january over money issues which DEVESTATED me, deeply. i have gone through hell n back just hoping n waiting a wonderful guy like him to come along i could finally give my heart to, moving our day back even one day would hurt a lot n it doesnt help that i have a join problem making me very sensitive to the cold so january wedding? ya, not gunna be the happy comfy yay im married that i was hoping for. its going to be crap crap this hurts lets get this over woth so we can go home already. all together it feels like everything has just gone terribly wrong n worst is i cant talk to him about every single wedding thing upsetting me bevause that would devestate him. he would do anything for me n wants nothing less then to put me on a pedistal, hes also shy n really never had anothee serious relationship that got near marriage so hes trying his best. it just eeally has been bugging me and kinda made me sad that there was no proposal, no surprise, no anything romatic, celebratory, nothing. should that matter? should it matter to me? or am i just being petty n childish? i feel like deciding to get married, my soon to be ring, and my wedding day will al just be everyday things normal days nothing special. i reaally want that special moment ya know? any advice ladies? please?
Post # 3
I have no idea if you are childish, as I can’t understand your post.
Post # 4
Why don’t you tell him you’re not getting married unless it’s summer? Why does he decide the wedding date?
As for the proposal, sorry but that’s how many guys are. I was proposed to in a car. I think we get our hopes too high thanks to movies and youtube.
Post # 5
@happynsoconfused: I’m with Milo, it would have been a lot easier to read, if you had used paragraphs and proof-read your text.
(I’m not saying my English is perfect either, I’m not a native.)
I do agree his proposal and the way he showed the ring were dumb, but like paula said, that’s what most guys are like.. They just don’t get it how important it would feel. I’d take up the issue with him, as you said you two can talk about anything.
Maybe he’d realize that he could make up some of his mistakes when the ring arrives.
Post # 6
I have no idea what you are saying or talking about. It takes way too much concentration to try to decifer your words.
Post # 7
Real life isn’t like the movies so you need to get over the proposal and just celebrate that you are getting married.
As for the wedding- well finances and financial security are a really good reason to delay but if all that matters to you is the marriage (and not the wedding) then go to the courthouse and get married.
Post # 8
srry guys my tablets weird. keeps changing around where im typing, turning autocorrect on n off. if you can’t read it i’m sorry
Post # 10
That was challenging to read, but I got through it!
You’re getting a ring now, so let the proposal and previous lack of a ring be in the past. Get your ring and be happy you’re engaged.
As for the wedding – you get a say in the date too. Having it pushed back due to money issues is definitely understandable, but if you don’t want a winter wedding, then don’t have one. Wait a bit longer and get married when it’s warmer.
But if you want to be married earlier more than you want a summer wedding, then deal with the January date. Decide what is more important to you. Either way you end up married in the end!
Post # 11
thank you to those who could get throght it, again sorry. tablet, ugh. n you have good points. i think i will talk to him though because i dont like not telling him when somethings going on or keeping my thoughts from him, n he can tell lately somethings been bugging me.
Post # 12
n yes j_jaye it is definately the marriage, i dont want a big wedding at all, i want the wedding over with. i didnt think of a court quickie, thanks.
Post # 13
I was proposed to eating a Big Mac. It was horrible. I would definitely say something to him if you want a ‘special’ proposal but be prepared to wait (patiently) for a bit longer while he plans something.
as for pushing the date back, perhaps you could aim for a spring wedding instead? You should decide the date together and write up a budget so you can realistically plan.
and definitely proof read your next posts, that was so difficult to read!
Post # 14
I was proposed to in the kitchen after I’d just yelled at fiance – imperfect proposals are very, very common. Sure, I wish he had timed it better, but at the end of the day, I’m engaged to an amazing guy.
As for the wedding planning issues – as others have said, you get a say in the wedding plans too. If you don’t like the date, don’t sit and sulk (I’ve wallowed in self-pity with wedding plans too, and it sucks). Talk with your fiance and let him know what you like/don’t like and go from there.
Post # 15
Okay, well, this was complicated to read, so I’m sorry if i missed the point.
Basically, he ordered you a ring, you’re waiting for a proposal, and finances necessitates you pushing back the wedding. If you don’t want a January wedding, why not push it back a bit longer to get a spring wedding? The last few months will fly by, and it sounds like you’d enjoy the wedding more if there was nice weather. Or, as PPs have suggested, you could elope or have a courthouse ceremony with your close friends and family.
Post # 16
I stopped reading a couple sentences in. I can’t understand a word of this.