Post # 1
So I am posting under a anon account cause I am almost too embarrassed to admit that I am feeling this way… It might be PMS induced sensitivity –
Here’s the story.
My Maid/Matron of Honor sent me a text telling me her other friend got engaged yesterday and she is so excited, so I said congrats even though I never met her. So then she sends me a text saying they were talking about going to see Bridesmaid on Friday and if I wanna come.
I couldn’t remember if I had asked her yet so I responded “I was gonna go with my mom and the other girls and see if you wanted to come”
And she said “Ok! we can all go together”
So then I told Fiance cause I was kinda upset cause I was sure I told her and he said I did tell her. He said when we went over there for dinner last week (before this girl even got engaged) and I brought it up and she said “I’m so excited I can’t wait”
So now what? I wanna go on Sunday afternoon…
I don’t wanna go with her and her friend. I orginally made the plans and now I am being invited to go with anither bride to be? … maybe this is a Bridezilla moment but I asked her first and she is my M.O.H and I am feeling kinda hurt.
How do I handle this? Do I just let it slide and have everyone go together? Do I plan it for another day and have her see the movie twice? Do I just say screw-it and go with my mom?
Am I over-reacting and being a baby?
Post # 3
I apologize in advance. You are being a baby. Seriously? All this over a movie?
Post # 4
Its not like she invited this girl to crash your bachelorette party, its a movie. I would just be gracious and invite the other bride to be (making your Maid/Matron of Honor see the movie twice would be ridiculous).
Post # 5
@soonerbride: Let me clarify why I am upset – It’s not about the movie, its about having a day with my girls…. and then having it hijacked by another girl.
Post # 6
Honestly… take it as a chance to meet a new person who you probably have things in common with (getting married and a friend)….since you hadn’t set your plans in stone, it doesn’t seem that your Maid/Matron of Honor did anything wrong and you can still have fun and see the movie, just having another person along.
Post # 7
I agree you’re kind of being a little sensitive. Yes, she’s your maid of honor but that doesn’t mean she has to hang out with you every time you plan something. You can continue having girls days after the wedding.
Post # 8
@anonbride: I am going to go against the norm here and say that I would be upset as well. This was meant to be a fun time for you to spend with your girls and the fact that your Maid/Matron of Honor was rude enough to except another invite sucks. Now, maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor forgot you asked and it was accidental, but you should tell her how you feel. Just let her know that you really wanted to take your girls to see it as a bonding time since you will be doing so much together in the next year. But I wouldn’t forrce her to see it twice. And if she still insists on bringing the other girl and you are not comfortable with it, then I would just go without her. Like PP’s said, it is just a movie and you will have plenty of time to do other stuff with the girls 🙂
Post # 9
I’m the forgetful type and very frequently commit to plans with one set of friends and then make plans with another set for the same time. So if you did tell her she could have just simply forgot. I understand why you would be upset about this. On the other hand it’s just a movie and I don’t think its worth the hassle of tension in your relationship. You may have some things in common with the other bride and could make for some great conversations.
Post # 10
Maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor got confused or forgot?
Post # 11
I’ve seen alot of girls on the hive get upset about their friends flaking out on them. Which is basically what is happening here. She made plans with a friend. Then the friend bailed on her to make plans with someone else. I find it very hard to believe no one would be upset by that.
Post # 12
I’m middle of the road on this one. I don’t really think it’s that big of a deal and would probably invite your MOH’s friend to join you on Friday (rather than you rearrange your plans and go on Sunday). You also said you invited your mom and other girls, so I would stick with what you had planned.
The fact that you couldn’t remember whether you invited her makes me think she may not have remembered either. I wouldn’t be mad, but I would stick to my original plan since you also invited others.
Post # 13
It’s a little childish. It’s just a movie. Not Bridesmaid or Best Man or wedding dress shopping.
Post # 14
Thanks Bees! I am going to plan it on Friday night and her and her friend can come along but I am still going to have my girls night. I am happy that most of you actually saw past the fact that I am NOT upset about her going to see a movie with someone else, but at the fact that I had asked her to go with me and then she made plans to go do it with someone else.
It is about my Maid/Matron of Honor forgetting or flaking out which JsDragonfly said!
Anyway, thanks again Bees! I love you all for your great advice and all the non-snarky comments. It’s good to know that most of you understand that wedding-related issues can bring out the sensitive sides of us all and that you guys understand that.
Thanks again ladies!
Post # 15
Im sorry but youre being way childish its just a movie… and in all the excitement she could have forgot that she was going with you and everyone… so let the other girl come with your group its not that serious
Post # 16
When I have a wedding issue… I ask myself… in 50 years when my husband and I are sitting together…. will it matter??? So ask yourself….in 50 years will ya’ll going to see the movie together really matter? Probably not.