- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Ok, so just in case everyone doesn’t know what’s going on with SO and I, this is my original post :
Since my SO is still in jail and we don’t know much of anything yet about exactly when he’s going to be out, I haven’t been able to do a whole lot of wedding planning lately. All I’ve done is a few diy things and order some of the things that would need to be ordered regardless of when we change our date to. So he has court next week to take care of the misdemeanor charges and it should be resolved. A week or two after that he’ll go to reception and his sentence for parole will be determined. So until then, I can’t tell people when our new date is, other than what I’ve been saying about it most likely being between mid-August to mid-September. It’s going to make it difficult for some of my family who has to travel since my niece who is supposed to be a flower girl is out of state and will have already started school by then. I don’t see waiting until 2013 as an option though, I can’t wait that long.
The issue now is that I was figuring on either the last weekend in August, or September 8th, to avoid labor day weekend, and now one of my bridesmaids is “claiming” to be engaged and wants her wedding September 8th. She’s having a hissy fit because I told her I need to move my wedding to around the same time, which is stressful and emotional enough for me already because of the circumstances. She doesn’t know what’s going on with my SO, only that there’s issues with his family that have caused us to have to move it. She’s known for probably over a month that it was being moved to either late August or early September, and now she’s acting like I never told her when I was moving it to and she’s not budging from September 8th.
Thing is, she’s not even officially engaged, there was no proposal, there’s no ring, there’s no plans, and her family doesn’t even know the guy. Not to mention she’s been bitching the entire time I’ve been planning, about having to scrape money together to be able to even afford a bridesmaid dress for my wedding. So now I just get off the phone with her and she says she’s thinking about having her wedding in the same location as mine! I just got done telling her that mine is either going to end up being 2 weeks before hers or a week or 2 after hers and she wants to do it in the same place?! I told her no, that I don’t want her having her wedding in the same town as my wedding that close together, I thought that was kind of rude. So she got mad and said I was supposed to be having mine months before and it shouldn’t be a big deal, even though I told her a month ago it was being moved to fall and not by choice. She has been talking about a destination wedding or a court house wedding and just doing a reception somewhere near where she lives, so it was just a bit of a shock to me that she all of a sudden wants to do it where I’ve been planning mine.
So she’s not only stealing our new ideal date, she’s trying to steal our location, knowing that mine will most likely be a week or two later in the same spot. And I’ve been planning for 6 months! I don’t know if I’m just extra emotional because of everything going on with my SO, but I’m freaking out. She made some comment about how I better not plan it for September because they’re probably going on their honeymoon right after and I need to be aware of that. Is it too much to ask for her to wait until after my wedding to go on their honeymoon??? Seriously, I’ve been planning for so long, I already have to move my date from spring to fall, my SO is in jail, and now I have a bridesmaid acting like I never informed her that I’m moving it to when she wants her wedding. I can’t even set the new date until he goes to reception and gets his time calculated. I suppose we could get lucky and they could offer him something much better, or give him a program or something that would get him out sooner, but it’s unlikely.
I just feel like she’s being completely bitchy and that she should care more about my wedding. Part of it is her track record with relationships too, she thinks she’s going to marry every guy she dates, and she hasn’t even been with this guy for very long. Honestly I don’t see this wedding happening, and I’m being forced to plan around her, when I’ve been engaged and planning for months 🙁