Post # 1
Alright ladies, here’s the quandary. I decided on a simple dress for my girls from a department store. However, they waited too long to order it and they ended up with a size that doesn’t fit on top (they are endowed). Bigger sizes do not come into stock until maybe a month before the wedding so I just assumed that they would return them and I would keep looking for a suitable dress.
Problem is, they loved the dress. So much so, that they have decided that working out and dieting will allow them to fit into them by my wedding date (about 3 months away). They have told me that they can diet and exercise enough to make their chest small enough to fit into the dress. Is this even possible?
I am so worried about them holding on to dresses that don’t fit them now and only have a chance of fitting them later. I would much rather have them return the dresses, but they have flat out refused my reasoning and given me the sense that I’m going bridezilla. Ultimately, I have given up and given them until one month before the wedding to fit the dress but I don’t know what I’m going to do if the deadline comes and they still think a couple weeks more will make the difference. Basically, is there anything else I can do at this point but sit and wait and hope? Any anecdotes of losing weight up there? TIA!!
Post # 3
I really doubt they’ll excercise away their boobs. I would have them go to a seamstress. Depending on how much extra room they need, a seamstress may be able to let the dress out a little on top.
Also, a trick that a lot my well-endowed friend use is to have a v-shaped notch of fabric added to the dress under the armpit. Under the arm it’s not noticable (so if the fabric isn’t an exact match it’s inconspicuous).
I wouldn’t count on them losing weight by your wedding.
Post # 4
I agree with rosychicklet. Go to a seamstress and see what can be done. You may be worrying about nothing. And I’ve done the v notch thing under the armpit and it works, especially if the dresses are a solid color and not a print (easier to match the fabric).
Post # 5
Yeah, the "girls" don’t go away. If they do, it’s because your BM’s are being anorexic, but nothing healthy will make them go away in 3 months. I guess just try and approach the subject lightly, not in a way that makes them feel like you don’t believe they can do it, but more so that you’re helping them and trying to not make them go crazy dieting and exercising. You love them just the way they are
Post # 6
Definitely go see a seamstress! Too much stress to try and lose up top, especially since chances of sucess are not likely. Rather than have them go nuts on an unhealthy diet, see what is possible. Best of luck!
Post # 7
When I lose weight, I often lose some in my chest.
I have a bridesmaid that ordered her dress too small and in my panic, I called the seamstress and asked her what could be done. She said if it was just a size too small, she could let it out, but more than that and she starts to charge more. I asked her if she could do a corset back like I have seen done on wedding gowns and she said that wasn’t a problem, added about another $50, but if they want to keep the dress that badly…
Post # 8
I do sometimes lose a bit of my chest when I lose weight- I wouldn’t say enough for an entire dress size but a bit. I think it depends on how far off they are in fitting their dresses. Aren’t the "girls" made up of mainly fat? Maybe it can work??? Are there no other stores in surrounding cities that have the dress in the larger sizes? I had Macys ship 3 dresses to me from a store on the other side of the state (you probably already tried this but thought I’d throw it out there!)
Post # 9
Thanks for the advice ladies! I broached the topic of a seamstress, but one Bridesmaid or Best Man does not want to pay more for her dress and is determined to fit into it instead. She has already lost a lot of weight dieting, but I don’t know how much more she can lose! She’s also the stubborn type, so I don’t know how I’m going to convince her to get it resized without insulting her (plus I can’t pay for it myself because of a tight budget). ARGH.
Post # 10
Well, just let her know you want her to look as beautiful as possible no matter what weight she is. Give her a certain amount of time before the wedding, and let her know you want her to go to a seamstress if she doesn’t fit beautifuly by then. For example, maybe 3 weeks before the wedding so the seamstress has time to fix it.
After all, you just want her to be as beautiful as possible, and that has nothing to do with her weight. And tell her she looks better with the bigger girls, it will make her feel better!
Post # 11
Oh, it’s true. I am one of those people that if I gain even 5 lbs., it all goes to my chest and I can’t button my button-up shirts. When I lose weight, it comes off the "girls" and can button my shirts again.
So yes, there’s a shot that they will fit the dresses, but as the bride, I agree that you have full veto power. I think you’re entitled to ask for a dress rehearsal once month before the wedding. If they are bulging out of the top, you can request that they get the dress altered, pick a new dress or wear a wrap. I hope the color of the dress is an easy one to find an alternative!
The last thing you want in your pictures is back fat and bulging boobies!
Post # 12
I’m sorry, if I understand you correctly, your BMs love their dresses so much that they are dieting so that they fit into it?! And you just want to make sure that they have something to wear? You are definitely NOT a bridezilla, nor are you crazy; if anything, your BMs are BM-zillas!
SoCalBeachGirl’s solution is a good one!
Post # 13
Would 3 weeks be enough time? I would love not to have to worry about it until then. But I am also afraid that there will be nothing a seamstress can do. They are both joking about leaving it unzipped an inch if it still doesn’t fit by the wedding (insert very non-amused bride face here).
Oh and here’s the kicker – they are black, strapless dresses! How much more simpler could I have gotten? So much drama!
Thanks again for all your help!! I feel much better about giving them a deadline now and (hopefully it won’t happen but) going bridezilla on their arses if the deadline passes with no luck!
Post # 14
Why don’t they just return the ones they have now, then buy them again (in whatever size is appropriate) the month before the wedding, when all the size options are available — would that work?
Post # 15
this is a strange problem to have indeed.
seems everyone else has the practical advice covered….
i’d love to see how amazing this dress is that has them running like rats on a mousewheel. lol…
Post # 16
I lose boobage when I lose weight. A BIG difference too…don’t get me wrong..they’re still big but instead of 40 they turn 38!
Loosing weight could work but why go thru the stress! suggest that V wedge be done under the armpit…good idea!