Post # 47
@BrideToBe14: While I don’t think you’ll notice them out of 200 guests, I would talk to your venue about their alcohol policies. The catering company I worked for had a policy that if you appeared “visibly intoxicated” you would not be served. I had many brides mention ahead of time “keep an eye on so and so, if anyone gets cut off it will be them”. As staff we never had a problem with this, and would keep an eye on any guests that seemed to be getting too rowdy. We were also happy to be the “bad guys” and tell someone they were cut off.
Post # 48
I have to invite them bc my fiance is very close to their husbands but he is not friends really with their wives.
Post # 49
Don’t worry about it. The open bar is there as something you’re providing to your guests. If they get wasted and act like morons, that’s on them. They’ll have to deal with 198 other people looking at them like they’re assholes. I would say this isn’t something to get yourself worked up over. You can’t control other people’s actions. Just focus on everything else and let them make their choice, good or bad.
Post # 50
I dont think you are being crazy. I was a little worried about one girl at my wedding. At the time, I knew she could drink and be dramatic (though lovley). Her DH couldnt come so she asked if she could invite a somewhat mutual friend who is very young and probably has a drinking problem. I said yes…. and guess what, they got drunk.
BUT….. I didnt even know. A. I would have only had time to talk to them once anyway B. my DH groomsmen kinda watched over them because they saw them getting tipsy. Nothing really bad happened though.
I just skimmed other responses but I agree, if you are worried how about telling the venue to tell people that “they arent allowed to poor shots”. I dont think shots need to be had at a wedding anyway.
I dont think it is a bad idea to make your planner aware of the situation. IF…. they wree to get out of hand, she could have the venue cut them off. Though I dont think you can do anything about them ordering a bunch of drinks.
Post # 51
By stressing about this, you are giving THEM the power. Don’t let them have it, this is YOUR day and as far as you’re concerned, they aren’t even there. You will have so many people around you that love you, you’ll not even be thinking about what they are doing. Just focus on all the good that is happening! And maybe have pictures of these two hanging under the bar so the bartenders can pour their drinks on the light side LOL.
Post # 52
@BrideToBe14: Your profile picture looks familiar. Are you famous or something?
Post # 53
I thought the same thing!!! I just can’t put my finger on it right now. I’m sure it’ll come to me soon, though!
Post # 54
OMG!! You’re miss Idaho!!!
I knew you looked familiar! Sorry to out you if you didn’t want to be known, but this is great! Congrats on getting married!!
Post # 55
Wow yeah that’s it! I knew that pretty face looked familiar. A famous bee!
Post # 57
maybe ask the bartender to be sure to have the guests bring back their empty drinks before giving them new ones.. ? I see your concern.. Just try to stay calm and remember that years from now, they won’t be what you DO remember, no matter how uncivilized they might be 🙂
Post # 59
@BrideToBe14: First off, hopefully you’ll be enjoying your wedding so much and spending time with the rest of the guests that are truly happy and there for you, that you won’t notice those messes going on in the background. Secondly, to curb the alcohol, you could just have your cocktail hour and then ask that they close the bar during dinner and then reopen once the dancing begins. But honestly, if someone wants to get drunk they can take 5 hours or 5 minutes lol But I can definitely understand your frustration…
Post # 60
I wouldn’t think twice about these two women; if there’s 200 people showing up, they won’t want to embarass themselves by acting out, and I doubt you’ll see much of them anyways. I would say don’t allow shots, make sure there’s plenty of filling apps during cocktail hour, and close the bar (only wine and beer) during the meal. Maybe try having a few signature cocktails available, a few weddings I attended had them and people seemed to be less interested in getting drunk at the open bar when there’s a few fun new drinks to try.