(Closed) Am I being extravagant? Selfish?

posted 8 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Do you think I'm asking too much for an awesome late honeymoon?
    DO WHATEVER YOU WANT, opinions are like a$$holes, everyone has one, and hers stinks... hahaha : (79 votes)
    57 %
    NO! You and your Hubby deserve some time off this winter!! :) : (55 votes)
    40 %
    Well, maybe travel somewhere closer to home... : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Yes, you should wait and save your money : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18641 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I don’t see how oging to the Caribbean is a huge honeymoon.  If you were going to Europe for 5 months or something, that’s a huge trip, but a simple trip to the Caribbean isn’t really that huge.  Just ignore her.

    Post # 4
    Member
    16 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    No, you are not being extravagant. Your coworker is probably just jealous that you have the ability and the chance to go on this wonderful trip. You should do what you want, and enjoy it!

    Post # 5
    Member
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Just curious – was this co-worker invited to your wedding? How did she know how extravagant it was?

    Post # 6
    Member
    639 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    sounds to me as though she’s being a bit of a sourpuss because she’s jealous.  I think you deserve a honeymoon – vacations are nice for everyone whether they are a honeymoon or not!  And, like MissAsB said, I don’t think a week in the caribbean is that extravagant, or a “huge” trip.

    Post # 7
    Member
    139 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think she´s jealous or something I agree with MissAsB, a trip to the Caribbean isn’t really THAT huge.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    You’re not being extravagant. Who says that brides with destination weddings can’t have honeymoons? Especially with a gap of several months between.

    Congratulations on your recent wedding! Enjoy your honeymoon! It’s possible she’s jealous or has her own issues—don’t let her rain on your happiness though.

    Post # 9
    Member
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I agree with MissAsB. A week beach vacation is nothing that she should be saying is too extravagant… look at how many people do week trips multiple times a year nevermind their honeymoon!

    Post # 10
    Member
    3125 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Jealous smelly coworkers should keep their traps shut 😉

    Post # 11
    Member
    1763 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I can see her point that you just went on a trip for your wedding, maybe she thought the two of you stayed at your destination longer and had time to relaxe. I don’t think her comment was out of jealousy or that she meant to hurt your feelings.

    Post # 12
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Honestly, even if you WERE doing a 6 month extravaganza all across Europe, I would still think it’s way rude to comment that you don’t “need to do that”. If you guys can afford it and want to go, then go for it! Especially since you haven’t had any sort of honeymoon yet. Just ignore her.

    Post # 13
    Member
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think you should do whatever you want!  As long as you’re financially stable, you have the time from work and you’re not missing any important events- who cares what you want to do? 

    I just almost had to have this ‘conversation’ with my Future Sister-In-Law.  My Fiance and I are going on a nice trip to DR with his brother and his wife in August, 1.5 months after our honeymoon.  We invited FI’s younger sister just to be nice (but the boys didn’t want her to come!) and she was like, “well, I can’t make it because I have school and work… but, uh… enjoy your second honeymoon”.  Instead of justifying it, I just said, “I sure will!!!” 

    Why do people even feel a need to judge what you want to do?  Or why, or when?  Jeez

    Post # 15
    Member
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    Maybe I am wrong but don’t most people that have a Destination Wedding still take time for a honeymoon, either where they got married or somewhere else? The wedding was WORK so I think you deserve your time off. You gotta love those “helpful people” that are worried about you using all of your vacation time or spending too much money. Go enjoy a week away with your husband!

    Post # 16
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    372 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Even if you had gone on a honeymoon – what you do with your time and money really isn’t the business of your co-worker.  If you guys want to and have the budget to go – GO and have a fantastic time.  I’d maybe just avoid looking/talking about it in front of this person.

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