(Closed) Am I being "ghosted" or am I overthinking this?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Cupcakenurse:  Ugh, what a coward. I’m sorry you’re going through this!

If I were you, I’d let rip. The lack of respect is astounding.

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Ugh, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. A guy did this to me a couple years ago (also after two months) and my blood pressure is getting higher just reliving the memories! SO frustrating and disrespectful. The weirdest part was, almost two years later he started texting and messaging me trying to chat. HA! (I never replied.)

Again, I’m sorry.

Post # 33
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Helper bee

If you do hear from him again (which it’s looking like you might not) I wouldn’t be surprised if he said he’s been “thinking” and say things are “going too fast” and got too serious too quick after your recent broken engagements. If so, don’t agree to “slow things down”…do yourself a favor and walk away. Just speculation on my part, but I’ve seen this exact situation waaaay too often.

Post # 34
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Bumble Beekeeper

Wow, that’s really lame. Do you think it’s possible that he was also lying about his other characteristics to “fit” you? It sort of sounds like a scheme from Barney on How I Met Your Mother. At least it was only two months lost and not two years. There are better guys out there. 

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - country club

What an ass! 

Just cancel the hotel, not worth your worries.

 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I had a situation like this with a guy who lived about 3 hours away from me. We met when he was in town and blah blah. my gut told me no, he persued me, I went with it, then after one of our weekends together he just dropped off the face of the earth. Turns out he’d been in a new relationship (with a stripper!) the whole time, he had met me after her. Anyway, he decided to take the relationship with her seriously since she lived near him. But he didn’t have the guts to tell me. They’re married now so whatever…she got a cheating coward and I have my Fiance. I was more hurt over the way he failed to man up and end it, oh and that he was playing us! 

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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craigslistgirl:  lol it’s part of “the playbook”! 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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abridetobe2015:  how did u find out about the stripper?  Did he finally fess up? 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Wow! What an ass! Sorry you are going through this. I think we all have gone through something similar at some point in time. I am with a pp who mentioned conffronting him, but that is me. I wouldnt be able to let it go till I heard it from his lips. Good luck!

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Yeah this happened to me with the last dude I dated before meeting Fiance. Dated 2 months, talking daily, hanging out a lot, then suddenly BAM, he was gone. Wouldn’t return my texts, wouldn’t answer his phone, totally AWOL. He went so far as to stop hanging out with a couple we are mutual friends with, the couple I met him through. Turns out he started talking to an ex and began dating her and didn’t have the balls to tell me.

 

Everything happens for a reason though, I met my Fiance a month later. Do yourself a favor and write him off now. He’s a douchey coward, he’s not into you, forget what he said, it was bullshit. Don’t text or call him again, move on, it’s not worth your time.

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I guess I’m way more blunt than most, but I would straight up call him out. “I can see you’ve read my messages thanks to read receipts and you have your phone because your spotify is blowing up my facebook newsfeed, so either man up and tell me what’s going on or I’m cancelling this hotel reservation.”

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee

Ugh, I’m sorry! What a grade-A asshole. I mean, I know this stuff happens, and it’s happened to a lot of us, but that doesn’t make it any easier. But it’s especially crappy since you have money down for a hotel. You’d think he could man up to let you know one way or another. Don’t have any advice other than to say sorry and sending positive feels your way!

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

What a dick!!! I’ve never heard of “ghosting” until I opened your post… I can’t believe that people would be this cruel, if he doesn’t want to continue seeing you sending a text if better than sending nothing!!!!

If I were you I’d text him and say “Hey Idiot, you forgot to turn your read receipt off!”

Post # 44
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Busy bee

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SoonToBeMrsT16:   ya I’m the same I’m not into probing quietly for a response when your being a douche.  I wouldn’t even tell him I’m canceling the hotel or ask him to man up. I’d tell him he’s an idiot for keeping read notifications on as I could see my texts have been read and since I can see he is actively enjoying his music that I’m not into the ignoring game.  No chances. This is only two months so no point even considering moving on with a flake if he does eventually respond.

Oh but I may tell him he can keep the hotel room as I can’t get a refund….only after I called and called of course. 

 

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