(Closed) Am I being "ghosted" or am I overthinking this?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 76
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2257 posts
Buzzing bee

I dated a guy once who was really self-important. He’d made a lot of money in the 90s but wasn’t doing anything much anymore. So he literally had no reason to not text me for two weeks. I didn’t text or call him much because I was afraid of being needy. He’d come back and apologize and say he just sometimes got really into a TV show, or he just needed to be alone for a while, and then he’d resurface. And then I said NO THANKS to that and broke it off. Don’t be a doormat. That’s exactly what he’s making you.

Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Cupcakenurse:  believe it or not my friend’s husband did this to her.  She had to hunt him down to get a divorce.  There was no fighting prior to him leaving.  He kissed her goodbye one morning and that was it.  It did quite a number on her psychologically.

Post # 78
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I am so sorry this is happening to you! I am still holding out hope for you that there’s a good explanation though! (Or even a half decent one…?) Maybe like PPs said it could be his phone was lost/stolen or maybe (and I know I’m reaching here) does he ever get stressed/depressed and withdraw? Or could he be really sick, maybe struck down with the flu and he’s so delirious he can’t respond (but could listen to music)? Any chance he might come to you in a few days and have a heart-to-heart about his unhealthy workaholic ways?

Anyway, if none of this comes true, I’m really sorry honeybee, but I do hope everything works out for you! I hope the next guy who comes along (if he really is gone) is better to you! I’m all about daily communication, so this would worry me too. Hugs to you.

Post # 79
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Annonnie89:  OMG.  He did not do this in a marriage!  No words…

Post # 80
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9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

What a fucking tool!!!! I am so sorry, but hey at least you found out sooner rather than later? Please please please do send him some sort of final message telling him off for being an immature cowardly douche bag. Even though it probably won’t change anything, this dickwad needs to hear it.

On to better things girly!!!

Post # 81
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

heputaringonit:  oh, yes he did.  The worst part is that he seemed like such a great guy.  He’s a con artist.  They are out there everywhere.

Post # 82
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160 posts
Blushing bee

This happened to a guy friend of mine…. Took him an entire month of no contact to find out that his new girlfriend had died in a car crash. 🙁 

Post # 83
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1462 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Cupcakenurse: Sorry that this is happening to you! It’s amazing how “grown” men will pull this kind of immature stunt rather than confront you and be honest. I once dated a 30 yr old guy for 6 months, we had even gone on multiple vacations together. I was moving to another state for grad school – as soon as I had left, he started doing the ghosting thing. I had to call him up and break up with him. What a loser with no balls. If you’re like me and just need the official closure, even though it’s obvious that the relationship is over, I’d call him to give a piece of your mind and break up. Leave a voice mail if he doesn’t answer. Then move on.

Post # 84
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

 

Gwendolyn88:  OH MY GOD. That’s horrifying. How did he finally find out? Why didn’t her family contact him??

Post # 85
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

fvsoccer:  Agree with you. I would mos def walk away. He doesn’t deserve her reaching out to him or seeking closure, etc. I would no longer give him the time of day to be honest. He may not be seeing anyone else but this is shady as hell. I’d move on. It’s only been 2 months…don’t even spend 2 more minutes reaching out to him or trying to figure out this odd behaviour OP!

Ama14:  Exactly. He could try other avenues to reach her.

 

OP, just cancel already. You don’t even need to explain yourself to him. Next!

 

Post # 86
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Don’t even wait, cancel the hotel room now and try to get your money back. There honestly is NO excuse that could bring this situation back. He’s obviously doing it on purpose if his read receipt is on. He wants you to know he’s reading your messages and then not responding. Don’t wait any longer. Just cancel the hotel and then message him, “cancelled the hotel for the trip, too bad you were such a coward. See ya”

Post # 87
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’re not being ghosted, you’ve been ghosted.

Cancel the hotel and send him a final text calling him a waste of skin.

Post # 88
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1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m sorry this have happened but it’s time to save some dignity to yourself and move on.  NO excuses are acceptable in this case to ignore a girlfriend’s text, phone calls etc… unless he was in ICU or undergo surgery which even if he tell you that, he has to bring paperwork to prove that

 

 

Post # 89
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

MrsA44:  I hadn’t even considered he had left the read receipt on ON PURPOSE!  I just assumed he was an idiot or really didn’t care one way or another.  

Post # 90
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4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would cancel the hotel (I don’t know how it’s non-refundable though since it’s not the day of), try to get any money back for it. If you can’t, chalk it up to you dodged a bullet with this douchebag. I would no longer call or text him, and if he does try to get in touch with you, I’d ignore it.

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