Am I being greedy?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

DanaWeddingGuest :  “Does anyone really use those $300 Kitchen-Aid mixers, or do they just go to the Mothers?”

Surprisingly we use ours all the time! My DH’s mom got one for him as a birthday present before we were married. Now we use it at least once a week. It’s great for baking but we also have a garden and hunt so we use it to process our food (we have a lot of attachments for it: grain mill, meat grinder, strainer, juicer, etc.). The initial investment is pretty steep but totally worth it in our case. Buying all these things seperately would be cost prohibitive so it saves us a lot of money and time.

Anyways, sorry to hijack the thread! I just wanted to share because I love our Kitchenaid. I agree with other posters that registering for lots of smaller ticket items is the best way to go, then you’re ensuring that someone isn’t going to feel obligated to buy a super expensive item if all the cheaper items have been purchased.

Post # 18
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Helper bee

I use my KitchenAid at least a few times a month and I also have the pasta attachment! It’s a really useful machine and I believe they are guaranteed for life! 

Your registry sounds super reasonable bee. You have plenty of gifts for your guests to choose from and at a variety of price points. I also made a registry post because I felt guilty about registering for so many things but after others looked at my price ranges they made me feel way better about it. 

I’ve seen very few registries that I thought were greedy! Maybe one person whose cheapest item was like a $75 teaspoon. People want to know what dish patterns and linens you like so they can give you gifts that you love!  

Post # 19
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Helper bee

Your numbers are very similar to mine! We invited about 130 people and about 30 were invited to my shower. I just checked and we registered for 42 gifts from Crate and barrel , registered for 30 from amazon m and some things like towels and other small things at target most of which were purchased. I did end up registering for less initially then adding some things on

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

As long as the items are reasonabley priced, it doesn’t matter how many items you have on your registries. The amount of items does not make you greedy. I actually find it better, because it gives guests options on what to buy, and limits them less. It also worked out for my husband and I, because we had someone pretty much complete our registry about two weeks after our wedding. If we hadn’t had those items on there, we wouldn’t have gotten them. Also, any items that you buy for yourself to “complete” your registry after your wedding will be available at a discount at most stores. We saved 20% on all leftover items at Bed Bath & Beyond after our wedding.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I cant even remember what all we had on our registry but I do know I picked an 8 peice dinner setting that I figured multipule people would pitch in for but nope! One couple decided to buy it all so it may seem like alot piece wise but I think people tend to look at it as a whole. 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Put what you want on there. If people want to give you a gift, they’ll either find something off the registry or they’ll purchase something else entirely. No one will think you’re being greedy because a registry is not an obligation.

My Future Mother-In-Law kept yelling at Fiance and I to add more items to our registry. We kept it very basic because we’ve been living together for a while and are both in our 30’s, so we really didn’t need anything. After our shower, there was barely anything left on the registry, and I’m hesitant to add more because we really don’t need anything else. 

Post # 24
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

winewithwedding :  As long as you have a mix of different items at various price points, I think you’re just fine! Our shower will only be about 35 people and we’re inviting 110 or so. I have over 80 items between two registries.

 

Post # 25
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Busy bee

No – I made my registry today too and it’s overwhelming. Really feels like you’re demanding a lot, but when all is said and done people like variety!

Post # 26
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’ve felt uncomfortable with asking for certain gifts (is it too much etc) so we’re letting our guests choose presents by themselves. It turned out to be a win-win.

So a few groups of our friends, knowing that we’re starting from scratch, have got together and bought some great items that I’ve never expected from them if they were buying separately. We have already got a dryer lg dlex3570w, a bed and a dining table (something like this). They have helped us a lot and I think it’s a great outcome.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I think it’s also helpful to keep in mind people can always gift you cash or checks. 

I didn’t have a registry because honestly my husband and I had a really expensive honeymoon and just wanted money to go towards that. But a lot of people got us christmas ornaments which was freaking awesome. We got married in December and now I’ll have something little to remember our special day by. 

I don’t think selection or number of gifts is something to dwell too much on. I would just put on what you like and what you want to use and then if guests don’t have an option that suits them, they can gift you money or cash. I always just gift a check bc it can cover a lot. 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College

Yeah, the only thing I registered for that I want to have that is ridiculously priced is the Roomba. That could show up at my door any day now, and I would do the happiest dance ever. I kind of feel crappy about what I’ve registered for, but people will only gift what they can afford. If they want to gift elsewise, it’s not my decision to shop for them.But at the same time, I’m nearly 38. I’ve been operating with the basics for years and years, so it will be nice to have an upgrade.

Remember, a registry is only a suggestion not a “you have to purchase everything on this list, and there shall be no straying from what I think I HAVE to have.” 

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Not being greedy at all you can even get a bit more expensive but let your guests buy it together. For example I just registered for a piece of art from an art registry called mishkalo. This site lets your guests all chip in to get you your piece!

Post # 30
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Wannabee

We actually registered for a few services as well as gifts. We got pool heating and covers [edited for advertisement]

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