(Closed) Am I being harsh?

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  • Post # 17
    19 posts
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Completely fine to me! I’ve banned FH from doing things he’d usually do every weekend as I want him to be able to walk, to shake the hands of our guests etc. I went to a wedding where both arms were broken two days before (from a drunken fall), black eyes from sports etc. Too much of a risk in my eyes!

    Post # 18
    2399 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No I think he can wait till after the wedding. My DH wanted to do TuffMudder? I think that’s what it’s called and I flat out said no. It was like a week before the wedding.

    Post # 19
    1006 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @hiroshymatetrastar:  I don’t get it- you’re okay with him racing (legally normal speed) but not before the wedding?  So if he dies at any other time, that’s fine, but not right before the wedding?  I don’t think you’re being harsh (I have told my SO that he can’t ever have a motorcycle because the risk to his life isn’t worth it), I just think it’s weird that you’re ok with him riding normally but not before the wedding.   

    Post # 22
    12244 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would prefer my Fiance race around his motorcycle than hang out with strippers all night!

    But my Fiance works in insurance and he sees motorcycle crashes/car crashes/bus crashes/combination crashes all day. He wouldn’t ride faster than 80, guaranteed!


    Post # 23
    11735 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think so considering I won’t even let my Fiance ride a motorcycle…ever! lol

    Post # 25
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t think you’re being harsh at all. I wouldn’t want him to do anything out of the norm before the wedding especially nothing like racing. He could get hurt and worse. Even a minor accident can have him showing up to the wedding with a scabby-scratched up face!

    Post # 27
    3695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m 100% with you.  My husband bought a bike (a CBR 954) when we were dating and crashed it the first time he rode it.  There is no.way.in.hell he’s taking that bad boy to the drag strip – or anywhere.  It’s safe and sound (and rusting to bits, thank god) in the shed out back. 

    Post # 29
    1123 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Well considering my fiances biological father died on a motorcycle going too fast the night before his wedding, and a friend of mine dies on a motorcycle the night of his proposal, I’d say definately not harsh at all.


    Glad my fiance and I agree motorcycles are not for us

    Post # 30
    1067 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Ugh. My dad got into an accident once, his motorcycle skid on an oil slick and slid across the road, his head bounced on one  curb and then hit another. If he weren’t wearing a helmet, his head would’ve been MUSH and I would not have existed.

    His entire side was raw from sliding and some parts were almost down to the bone.


    Post # 31
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m an experienced rider and a veteran of many, many track days, and I honestly would not see a problem with this, assuming that all the guys in the group are also experienced riders. I would assume the track would have some way of weeding out the less capable riders before letting them go wide throttle; usually they do some trials and other, more controlled races before ranking the participants.  

    I would far rather go 150mph on a closed track than 60mph with random cars popping in and out of the freeway!

    Track days are infinitely safer than riding on the highway because there is no car traffic, no debris, and usually only skilled riders. If he wears proper gear (kevlar better than leather, and gear up with hand protection too) and rides with other skilled riders on a course run by professionals, he’s probably going to be just fine.

    FWIW I trained with the Washington State Highway Patrol and during my training I wrecked 3 KZP’s. Everyone wrecked at least one bike. It was really demanding, challenging riding even for riders with years of experience. It wasn’t my most comfortable plane ride home, but the worst injury of the lot was a couple of broken toes; most folks only had some bruises and scrapes. The proper gear is absolutely critical, as is not sharing the track/course with rookies.

    Compromise and let him have his race day at an AMA-affiliated track at a formal, organized Track Day.

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