(Closed) Am I being inconsiderate for wanting to replace all of FI’s furniture?

posted 10 years ago in Home
  • poll: Am I being inconsiderate by wanting to replace all of his furniture before we move?
    Yes - You're inconsiderate. He must like them, why else did he buy it. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Yes - You're impractical, you don't need new furniture just cause you're moving. : (9 votes)
    19 %
    Yes - You're inconsiderate AND impractical! ;o : (5 votes)
    10 %
    No - It's your house together, it should have furniture you both like, not what his Mom picked out! : (22 votes)
    46 %
    Compromise - Just put the ugly stuff in a room you won't use often. : (11 votes)
    23 %
    Other - Please explain. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 19
    Member
    14 posts
    Newbee

    Moving can be exciting, and you start to dream up what your new place will look like and all of the new furniture you will want, the paint on the walls, etc. But in reality, and especially when you will have a house payment to make, it might be best to just replace things that are semi-important, like the couch (sitting on an uncomfortable couch isn’t really negotiable for me!) or living room furniture that guests will see. 

    I would put off book shelves for a while, because they honestly aren’t that bad. I live in a college town, and the cheap bookshelves we all have here are from Walmart and Target for $20, and those Ikea ones are much nicer looking! 

    Think about the items you really want to replace, and do that, but hold off on the unnecessary bits like bookshelves (which, if they are full, no one notices anyway!) or just get rid of the one that doesn’t match, or put it in a different room than the others. 

    Post # 20
    Member
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    When Fiance & I moved in together, he was coming from his own apartment with his furniture, and I didn’t have much other than a TV stand from college.

    We lived with just his furniture (cheap bookshelves, a dinning “table” with barstools, a futon, etc.) and slowly replaced pieces. First a new TV stand, then the matching bookshelves, a sofa, a new computer desk, etc. We made all our purchases together and it was a gradual change.

    I could see immediately changing small things like curtains that you don’t like, but I don’t see the need to immediately replace all of the furniture that you don’t like at the same time. 

    Post # 22
    Member
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My husband and I have lived together for 3.5 years. I didn’t like his furniture, but I only had girly bedroom furniture. We have slowly been building our home. It started with sanding and staining a whole bedroom set he had from his mom (it was in terrible shape). Now we finally got a new coffee table and tv stand/set. I was glad that he had furniture to fill up our home, but little by little all of it will be replaced. I would buy one thing at a time (refinishing furniture is not a quick process), and build your home. It doesn’t need to be perfect all at once. As far as keeping everything, be nice and understand the difficulty of parting with things, but encourage him to get rid of things-and you have to do the same. My husband started like that, but now wants to get rid of everything because of my encouragement. 🙂

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