- Speck_
- 4 years ago
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- June493
- 4 years ago
- scissorgirl
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
no one is jealous of telling their friends and family to “suck it” as you so eloquently put. If you continue to call people that, you might want to clarify what exactly she/we are jealous of..
- redmango
- 4 years ago
You are comparing apples to oranges. Having a Destination Wedding in Hawaii is completely different than having a wedding in the continental US. The flights alone to Hawaii are very expensive. For that matter, everything in Hawaii is expensive. Some people may not want to take their “family vacation” in Hawaii.
No one here is “jealous”. In fact, many of the Destination Wedding threads are rather cringe worthy because you hear of brides complaining that no one wants to spend that kind of cash on “their” day. You need to get over yourself.
Not that it matters, but I plan on having a small, local wedding where no one from our families has to travel more than an hour.
- June493
- 4 years ago
- June493
- 4 years ago
- Smoochism
- 4 years ago
I think people should have their wedding whenever and wherever they want. To answer the original question, just don’t be upset if some people can’t make it on a weekday.
To the woman who is having her wedding in Hawaii, I don’t know about everyone else, but I’m already married and even I’m jealous! A Hawaiian wedding sounds divine!!!
- June493
- 4 years ago
- garnobella
- 4 years ago
Yes and no. This is a verrry touchy subject here on the bee.
My fiancé and I started dating on the 1st of June, 2010. We got engaged on the 1st of June, 2015. I really desperately wanted to get married on the 1st of June too, but waiting for a Saturday meant a 4 year engagement. So our wedding is this year, on a Thursday. It will start at 4pm.
We’re only having a small wedding of 60 guests, and so far 50 of them have confirmed they will come – and I haven’t sent out the invitations! I started telling people miles in advance, and the feedback I’m getting is that people are excited to have a long weekend – they are wanting to take the Friday off too!
You know your guests, and your finances, so do what you want. What you CAN’T do is be upset if someone couldn’t come. For some people taking the day off work or school isn’t viable.
- garnobella
- 4 years ago
Also TBH I would much rather attend a weekday wedding than a weekend wedding. My weekends are always SO busy it is MORE inconvenient for me to take a day off!
- Bunnyang
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
You can have your wedding whenever you want, but some people will not be able to come. Also, no one wil really be able to relax/let loose as they would have work the next day.
I am on the same page with some others here – why not have a smaller wedding with the people who mean the most to you? If I were to do my wedding over again I would actually make it smaller. 🙂
- TeresaBenedicta
- 4 years ago
no it is NOT rude to have a weekday wedding.
it is NOT rude to have a weekday wedding, a Sunday wedding, a sunrise wedding, a destination wedding, a wedding with a time gap between ceremony and reception, a wedding with a distance gap between ceremony and reception, wedding with cake and punch, a dry wedding, an outdoors wedding, a wedding with no kids.
a wedding invitation is an honor – like an academy award nomination. It is not an order to appear on the red carpet.
Now what IS rude is to issue invitations like they are orders. What IS rude is getting in a huff if people can’t make it. Yes – even if you went to a bunch of trouble and expense for it to be local, Saturday night, with no gap, full dinner, babysitters on-site, in the air conditioning, etc – you are rude if you get in a huff over people declining.
so, make sure the details of your event are made known to guests before they rsvp, and make sure your “must be there” people can attend — but then go crazy having exactly the wedding you want and can afford.
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