@Elleymae: I think the insecurity monster is attacking you. I have to use a chair and a lion tamer’s whip to keep it at bay, but even then, it manages sneak up and take over sometimes. (OK, a lot of times).
You’re in a great position that many Waiting Bees would like to be in: He’s TOLD you he’s not only going to do it… but he has the ring, he’s amost past the cold feet (and in some cases that counts as unofficially engaged on some of the boards) and all that’s stopping him is your anxiety over it. I can’t remember who t happened to, but back around the fall or winter, one Bee posted that she was given her ring right as she was having a melt down. He had a plan of how he wanted to do it, but he figured it was better just to give it to her, tear-stained face and all than go through all the upset again (and maybe again) before he could set things up for a ‘surprise’.
Look or Mr. Bee’s Plan, a post on how men want soemthing special, too, and a weepy lady isn’t one who tuggs at the heartstrings (actually, science has just shown that tears release a phermone that actually repels men, killing their libido and attraction to you, even if just temporarialy.) You want him to see the sexy, fun, smart, beautiful gal he wants to marry, not a sad, insecure wretch who sounds like she just wants a cracker jack prize (I know you’re not like that, so does he).
I’d LOVE to know my Boyfriend or Best Friend had a ring in his posession, and was just waiting for the right time to propose. You’ve been told what I and many others on this waiting board haven’t – your Boyfriend or Best Friend has already told you in no uncertain therms that he HAS CHOSEN YOU… he just wants to make the formal ceremony of proposing special for you both – just like a lady likes the wedding to special, the man feels he has less control over the wedding than the proposal – he needs that control, to feel he did this on his own, without any pressure. My Boyfriend or Best Friend has waffled for ages, making me feel at the times that lion tamer’s whip breaks like I’m not really chosen, yet, as Mrs. Right…. I’m just Miss Right NOW, hoping there’s not a Miss Next Tuesday, Miss Next Year, Miss Next Decade.
Follow Mr. Bee’s Plan as best as you can – find some really exhausting activities to do that numb the brain and make you too tired to stress about it. Then post pics for us once he does it 🙂