(Closed) Am I being irrational?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Why don’t you just ask him and save yourself the torment?

Post # 4
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

He is turning the blame around on you, and pushing the proposal back for months at a time to an unspecified date.  Are you sure he wants to get married? Maybe he isn’t ready yet…

Post # 5
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012


I second this.

Post # 6
1325 posts
Bumble bee

@murmur:Some guys wont “let” us.   Frown(Of course we don’t need guys to let us do anything….but you get what I’m saying)


OP-I don’t think you should be mad, of course emotions are what they are and doesn’t mean you wont be mad. I do think you have every right to be upset though. Who knows if he’s stalling or has a legitimate (In your opinion) reason. I would definitely be disappointed if this weekend he was supposed to plan a proposal he just…didn’t do anything.

However, that being said, I wouldn’t say anything. Sure when we notice patterns or can see the most likely outcome it may make sense to preemptively get upset and say something. Often times I find that’s not for the best though. Nothing is set in stone until it’s the past.

I hope he gets his act together! If he does end up proposing spontaneously, I’m sure you will be thrilled. He may have a general idea of how he wants to do, and Portland (PDX resident here!) can be a very romantic city. 🙂

Post # 7
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@murmur: Thirded. 

And @Tunacupcakes: I think they lose the right not to “let” you when they play weird, painful games with you for 8 months.

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