(Closed) Am I being mean or a pushover?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@picturemeurs: I don’t think you are. I understand that she is paying for the dress, but it’s nearly impossible to find something everyone in your Bridal Party likes (if you want them all dressed alike). It’s your wedding, and if she were to have you in hers I’m sure you would wear anything she asked. As long as the dresses aren’t overly pricey I think she needs to take one for the team. Whenever I’m asked to be in a wedding I accept, knowing that I will be paying for several items and it will be what the bride wants.

Post # 4
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Is she at least willing to wear the color and fabric you picked out? Because if so I would honestly be okay with it. And I think there’s a bonus to having the dresses custom fit to the BM’s – they look better and are much happier! I tried to get my BM’s to do this but they were all against it – they wanted me to choose the dress and they wanted to all wear the same thing.

Post # 5
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1231 posts
Bumble bee

While I do agree she should at least like the dress and be able to wear it again (ahh what a world it would be where bm dresses weren’t expensive crap). She said yes to being in your wedding and you have every right to choose the dress style you want them to wear. You are absolutely not being a bridezilla. Speak your mind, don’t let her push you around.

Just throwing it out there. David’s bridal has some nice inexpensive dresses that come in pretty quickly.

Good luck!

Post # 7
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Honestly, if she is willing to use the color and fabric you like, – I think you need to meet her/ them in the middle.  SHE is the one wearing this on her body.  I don’t know the whole story, but I would not force my Bridesmaid or Best Man to wear anything- they are friends, at the very least.. people, you know?

Post # 9
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1231 posts
Bumble bee

@picturemeurs: oohhh yea I don’t know how long it would take them to send it outside the US. I live in NY and we ordered in febuary and came in April. So that was the only reason i suggested it. hmmm..well whatever you choose, stick to your guns! After all it is your wedding. 🙂

Post # 11
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

its YOUR wedding..they are standing in the wedding to support your love and your marriage…any true friend or fiance would wear what you want them to! I have picky & cheap bridesmaids but honestly its what your vision and day is going to be- dont want to look back at pics in 10 years going Why did i let them pick that dress….theres nothing bridezilla about it.Just the fact you are concerned shows you arent a bridezilla 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

 

@picturemeurs:

i went thru the same issues with my Bms cheapness and my lovely Fiance set me straight on it, hence my answer to you…. I wish you best of luck!!!

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