(Closed) Am I being mean or is my MOH being unreasonable?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Country Club

You’re not being unreasonable. She had plenty of time to make arrangements with her work schedule. Hopefully she will come around!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all. She still has time to fix this, so hopefully she gets her head on straight and realizes how important it is to you that she is there.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

Did you pick the date? Your Maid/Matron of Honor and bridal party are really the ones that should have picked the date/planned the party. But unfortunetly, not everyone will be able to make your shower. I know it’s disappointing, but if she has to work you can’t get mad about it.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t know if you’re being unreasonable – did she ask for the day off but didn’t get approved?  Does she really need the money and can’t take the day off and thought maybe she could swing it but now cant?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

is she worried if she takes off that she will look bad at her new job?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe having the wedding and the shower close together really was ok up until now.  Maybe something has changed and she just can’t take off another day.  As PPs have suggested, she might need the money, was denied the time off, or maybe she is afraid of looking bad at the new job.  Just because she knew about the date before the new job doesn’t mean she could get it off.  It can be really hard to ask for a lot of time off when you are new, and even if you get it, it may reflect poorly on you. 

It’s ok to be disappointed she can’t make it, but I don’t think it’s fair to be mad at her.  Work trumps shower.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@RunsWithBears:  I agree. Especially if she lives out of state, I think you need to cut her some slack.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

oh and she lives out of state, miss that part……it must be a little rough because she has to travel on two weekends close together and having a new job and all. I can understand why she may be a little frustrated.

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