(Closed) Am I being oversensitive/selfish? Quite long… trying to get it straight!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Me_and_MrJones:  I would just talk to her. If shes really your friend she shouldnt mind taking care of the baby while talking to you.

push come shove, in a nice way when shes rested tell her what you just told us. Then discuss how your relationship can gain some balance

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It sounds like you don’t know how to talk about yourself and rely on others to ask you questions. That’s not really a sustainable friendship. Until you learn to talk about yourself your friendships will always be lopsided, especially if you’re so intense with helping your friends. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsBroccoli:  +1. 

If something is important to you, speak up!  You’ve never encouraged her have this kind of role in your life so she’s not going to realize you want her to, until you say something.

Congrats on the engagement!!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Agreed, I think you simply need to step forward and initiate the conversations you want to have. She is a new mom, so she’s almost certainly not deliberately ignoring you. She’s just overwhelmed, distracted, and sleep-deprived. She will probably be THRILLED to have some fun conversations about your wedding plans – but she’s not in a place to go looking for them, you’ll need to bring them to her. Maybe ask her to go to lunch, go for walks together, etc. so you can have some girl time. She’ll probably be delighted!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@Me_and_MrJones:  oh yay! I am glad it worked out. Good friends always understand!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i really dont get what you mean by “Talk to me about the thing she knows I want to talk about”

i say this because im a VERY GOOD listener, but im also oblivious, and unless people start telling me their problems (or succeses), i wont know they want to talk about it, it’s their life after all, is up to them to choose what they want to share with me and what not.

I think you should start the conversation and she’ll surely go follow it πŸ™‚

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Me_and_MrJones:  oh sweet, i didnt really read everything until now.

Congrats! πŸ™‚

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