Am I being paranoid???

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Grandma, yes. Aunt, no.

Assisted living facilities are doing a hell of a lot more than the aunt who won’t even wear a mask. If they are allowing visitors I would go.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

Bee, it’s your duty to protect that precious baby…and I think your husband is just wrong to argue with you about it.  I think it’s immature of him.  If people (even treasured relatives) think they’re too good to wear a mask, then we need to protect ourselves (and our children) from them.  Sorry, but this pandemic has caused a lot of sickness, misery, and death.  We need to use common sense, especially when dealing with those who don’t seem to have any.  It is rare for babies under 2 to get COVID, but when they do, it can be worse than in older kids, and can be fatal.  I wonder how your husband would feel if this happened to your precious baby?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Grandma yes. Aunt no

Visit with grandma would be safer, brief, and she is elderly.

Aunt is completely reckless

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I don’t think it’s fair that you’re seeing your family and not seeing his, especially his grandmother who is in an assisted living facility and they’re taking precautions. If after you’ve visited the assisted living, you aren’t happy with the precautions in place, then you don’t have to visit again.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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@rumandcoke25:  ok but by the same token, presumably his grandmother has had no visiting her during the worst of it? I’m guessing at her age as she’s in an assisted living facility but surely his grandmother is equally as high risk? Make sure your mom has two weeks worth of food and if you don’t agree with the precautions, you can isolate away from your mother for two weeks.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

No no no. None of these things should happen. If you can’t effectively quarantine (and it doesn’t seem you can) then you shouldn’t go to the facility. Do you really want to be the people who kill your grandparent? And the aunt shouldn’t be seen unless it is outdoors and you can really trully keep everybody masked and 6 feet apart. If your mom really does need help, then you should go help her—but only if these other precautions are taken because otherwise you risk exposing her and I’m assuming it would be hard to live with killing your mother .

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@rumandcoke25:  

No, you aren’t being anything but sensible. Babies and infants , well , children generally are not the ones most at risk, but nevertheless… Here in Australia ( where, l should say, things are not that dire overall) nursing homes, aged care and assisted living facilities are by far the worst hit, with most deaths . 
The aunt and her family are dangerous fools and you are totally right not to get close to them . I am so so sorry your h. is being difficult and recalcitrant about them. If you can keep it calm and just keep reiterating your position in as few and as non inflammatory words as possible , maybe he will at least accept that. 
Your visits to your mum seem to be carefully handled , but you need to make sure they stay so. 

Notions of ‘fair’ and ‘time to be normal again’ at this time in our history are frankly childish and irresponsible and l wish you very well in resisting them.

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