Post # 1
So, I don’t know if this is even worth stressing about but all I know this is REALLY STRESSING ME OUT! My best friend is flying from the US to attend my wedding which I’m having halfway across the world. Unfortunately she leaves the next day(midnight) which means she has to be in the airport 3/2 hours in
advance…HOWEVER since itll be the next day after the wedding, I know I’ll besuper busy with everyone+new husband so I really don’t think I’ll be able to drop her off.
She had just asked me on the phone if her leaving at that hour would interfer with party plans etc, I said I didn’t think I would be able to drop her at all and that’s the only issue I could see, and she’s like oh ok, so should I take a cab? And well, I felt REALLY bad so I just said, ohhh nooo, don’t worry I’m sure we’ll find someone else to drop you off. HOWEVER thinking about it now, I really don’t know if anyone involved in wedding will be able to as it’s the next day and fiance’s friends planning a party.
What to do? Am I being selfish?! AAAH I’m really stressing about this. I just don’t want her to feel bad? HELP!
Post # 3
I would be surprised if she really expected you to drop her off. The day after is always busy and hectic.
However, it would be nice if you or someone could drive her to the airport. Do you think a parent or close relative could do it? If not, apologize and say she should plan on a cab, but if plans change you will give her a ride.
Post # 4
I agree- I doubt she actually expects you to drop her off. I had a friend ask if there was somewhere to stay at my end for the wedding and although I have two extra bedrooms I wasn’t going to do it….it’s your wedding and the reception is for guests, but the time outside of that is for you and your new hubby.
I’m sure someone will step up to the plate and take your friend to the airport.
Post # 5
I just feel bad as I already pretty much said that someone would take her, buttttt this isn’t something I can guarantee considering things will probably be really busy and the airport is a bit far off…
I just want to avoid ‘expectations’ if that makes any sense. I’m one of those people who freak out if someone is upset by me( really trying to work at it), and I can see something like her being upset that no one can drop her off as really making me feel terribly mean and guilty.
Oh the other hand, if I am being selfish, I’m not beyond hearing that!
Post # 6
So how do I ‘un-do’ my comment about saying someone would drop her? Also because her+several other friends traveling from abroad to come(but only staying for a week), I feel an ‘obligation’ to entertain…if that makes any sense..However I know I’ll be REALLY busy…terrible, but im almost hoping some of them don’t come so that I don’t have to deal with the stress:( silly but true
How do I manage expectations? I don’t want anyone upset at me
Post # 7
I can’t imagine anyone expecting you to entertain them the week of your wedding, especially if several people are coming together. I wouldn’t even mention it because I just can’t imagine them assuming that. As far as your friend, I would probably just call her and tell her that you’re so sorry but you’ve thought about it and you don’t think anyone can take her to the airport (although if she really is your best friend flying halfway around the world and if you want to be really generous, you could offer to pay for her cab, but I don’t think that’s necessary).
Post # 8
how far away is the airport?
Post # 9
If I was that guest I would never expect the bride to drop me off or make my arrangements. I think each guest is responsible for their own travel and she can take a cab.
Post # 10
yes, you are being silly. she can take a cab and that’s fine!
Post # 11
I don’t think you’re being selfish at all. You definitely shouldn’t be stressing yourself out over this. Just roll with the punches, if you or someone else is available when she needs to be dropped off then drop her off. If not, call her a cab and maybe cover the cab cost for her. I doubt it will be as big of an ordeal as you think it will be.
Post # 12
They are your friends, they love you, and they will understand. I would just explain exactly what you said…..you spoke before you thought. I honestly think they will understand. What I did for my out of towners I had a party the night before, not a rehearsal dinner. That might be an option for you? Like others I’m wondering how far away the airport is, who will all be there, where your wedding is etc. It’s hard to take back what you say but I’m sure if you were just upfront with your guests they would understand.
Could you invite them to a gift opening the next day and arrange something for them?
Post # 13
Hey guys, thank you so much for your input, it really helps. I don’t know why every single thing is stressing me out or puts me on edge:( She’ll be the only friend staying with me hence why I guess I felt that extra ‘pressure’. I really need to learn to just go with the flow, and not over think everything. I just don’t know how to do that?
And yes, I’ll be organizing a party the day after! I just need to learn to take things as they come and not worry SO MUCH ABOUT EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE! It’s driving me mad!! But you guys, you seriously SERIOUSLY helped, I just needed to get a better perspective on this.
On a side note, the airport is about 45 mins away and my wedding is March 11 this year!
Thanks again my dears
Post # 14
If it was me, I would just call a car service a few weeks in advance and book her a car to take her to the airport. Tell her that although someone may be able to take her, you can’t risk her missing her flight so she will need to take a cab but you made a reservation for her and give her the phone number and reservation number so she has all the info. If youc an splurge and she is the only one, maybe pay the cost or split it with her.