Post # 61
HELLLLL NO. Girl, stand up for yourself now or she will continue to do things like this after you are married. Trust me, this happened in my previous marriage. Think about the future and when you guys have kids. She will constantly undermine you until you show her that it’s not okay.
I would tell her that she either needs to personally uninvite the guests she sent the STDs to or you should call them up and let them know you are sorry, but she invited them without your knowledge and you were already to your guest limit. That’s what I would do.
Post # 62
You all did the right thing. I have a feeling that she’s probably either lying (and hasn’t sent out any save the dates) or she only did so after she found out that she was “only” getting 25 extra guests as a way to try to push you two and your parents into letting her invite more ppl.
Don’t fall for this mess. Let her son deal w her bc she’s been manipulating you and making you feel bad for no reason. Your decision and your FI’s about Christmas makes sense. He probably will need to have a sit down w her to let her know that she’s caused too much drama so her time for input is over, eliminate the fish option, and he can say that he will ask her for her input when it’s desired, which might be never. He should tell her that he isn’t going to have his relationship w you or your parents affected by her antics anymore so she can either get on board and be happy about all this or she can keep her comments to herself.