Post # 1
Hi, I need some honest input here… I’ve been lurking on here on and off for over a month now. My bf and I have been together a little over 2 years, living together 2 years. (We went to hs together so already knew each other) Anyways, without getting into it too deep, he bought a ring, had it sized, and has left it at the jewelers for 2 weeks. I have been sooooo sad, and resentful and just plain YUKKY knowing it’s there and he hasn’t picked it up. Okay, the logical part of me understands he’s not sure where or when to do it. The GIRL in me is like REALLLLY, WTH, JUST ASK ME 🙁 I’ve been watching friends get engaged around me a LOT lately and I’m spending a lot of time crying because I’m taking it as, he doesn’t love me or he wouldn’t leave it there, if it was a boat would he leave it with the seller…. I am losing it. And we are leaving in less than 2 weeks to go to Costa Rica for 2 weeks…. I HOPE it doesn’t drive me nuts the whole time I’m down there…lol Am I being ridiculous????
Post # 3
You are not being rediculous, getting antsy is to be expected 🙂
Post # 4
Yeah i think the worst part is you KNOW the ring is just freakin sitting there!!! Take a deep breath and go work out or something to take your mind off it… i know it’s almost impossible but if you can get your mind off it by keeping busy … it helps!
Post # 5
Aww welcome to wedding bee… i’m going to take a guess that he’s going to purpose in costa rica but didn’t want to risk having it in your house to find and thats why its still at the jewelers. Or its just safer there in their vault then in his bed side drawer you are going to costa rica?? thats AWESOME! i would bet money that he’s going to ask you then. give him a break let him make it special 🙂 good luck and Have fun!!!!
Post # 6
I posted this in two places 🙁 haha antsy… I’m crying all the time…. I feel like a FREAK. Just not sure HOW to not obsess. I’ve been SOOOO busy, but yet I still can’t shake it
Post # 7
I know it’s not going to be in Costa Rica…he wouldn’t travel with it, and I wouldn’t really want him to…lol That’s the other kicker, I wouldn’t even wear it down there, I would end up putting it in safety deposit box. I’ve painted my room, rearranged cupboards, donated 2 contractor bags of clothes, cleaned HIS closet and drawers, ha, gone thru all the 8mm tapes and marked what they are for dvds, shopped, packed, snowshoed…etc I’m running out of things to do and I’m crushed. I don’t want a big tadoo proposal, and he’s not that kind of guy anyways. Why can’t he just go get it and lets do this lol
Post # 8
No you’re not being ridiculous! This would drive me nuts too. Actually, it did since my bf left my ring at the jewellers for about three weeks! And now it’s been sitting in a bedroom drawer for about a month and a half…argh!!
Post # 9
From a logical standpoint I can see why leaving it with the jeweler is a good idea. If I were a guy, I could see myself doing that if it’s not insured yet or if there was a set date I want to propose on, but don’t want the risk of it being in the house because you live with him.
Post # 10
I am going to say something that is probably not popular but I would want someone to say it to me. “Yes you are being ridiculous”.
Okay, so let me clarify, when I get anxious I think crazy ridiculous things. i.e. boyfriend is coming home early – oh my god why is he coming home early …”insert ridiculous thought here”
When you aren’t in this heightened state you wouldn’t think “he doesn’t love me or he wouldn’t leave it there” Silly – you know it is silly.
You are stressed so ridiculous thoughts are NORMAL. But still ridiculous, so you just have to kind of take a step back and talk to a friend and have them laugh and you can laugh and they will say “Girl – you’re crazy, of course he loves you”. Cause he does – he probably has some reason for leaving it – it is a big purchase perhaps he is afraid to bring it home and lose it, seems more likely then the alternative 🙂 Deep breaths…this too shall pass 🙂